Re: Very Worried Father Seeking Any Help Possible
You're not even trying to hear, and people have been trying to help you. Come back when you're ready to listen, learn and work toward a better future for you and for your son. Good luck.
Re: Very Worried Father Seeking Any Help Possible
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Reading comprehension :\.
I didn't say that my lawyer said I won't get 50/50, I said he said that she holds all the cards RIGHT NOW. We haven't been to court yet, so of course she does.
I will just stop responding now, I came here for help and all I am getting is people that seem to be looking down at me. I am a good Dad, I am doing everything in my power to get my son, and you all are not helping with advice at all. You are treating me like I am an unfit parent.
Good day.
Not one person has even loosely suggested you're unfit. Believe me, had that been the case, you'd know about it.
What you've been told - repeatedly - is this:
Being unwed, and in your set of circumstances, a true 50/50 timeshare just is not likely to be ordered unless Mom agrees. It's not about money and there is an excellent reason behind that. And I'm certain hearing that was genuinely a shock to you, and seemed at best illogical. But it is the reality.
(We cannot start giving custody to the parent with the most money - that's chaos waiting to happen right there)
You actually told us that a lot of your friends have a 50/50 timeshare and they are "normal" just like you. That evidently isn't so accurate. But the worst is, you went off on a tirade for no other reason that you weren't being told what you wanted to hear.
You've been answered by a group of people from vastly different backgrounds, with vastly different family dynamics (no, seriously!) and vastly different parenting experience. When all of us are in agreement, not only is that a bit uncommon (no, seriously - it really is!) but it confirms that we're on the right track.
So if nothing else, do yourself a favor. Start researching Father's Rights groups. There are some excellent resources out there and I don't mind at all suggesting deltabravo.net (it's not strictly a Father's Rights group but it does focus enormously on those situations).
Finally, keep your head. Essentially, this has just become something of a business issue and if you start treating it as such you're going to protect yourself in many ways over the next however long.
Deal?