Collecting Unpaid Child Support

Thanks for everyone that replied.

I had a talk with the CP and she said at this time she not planning to file. So I'll try to stay in favor to per-long the inevitable. I am hoping the longer she waits the better chances I have of not playing her in full. I do have a payment history of giving my daughter money immediately after my court order has been closed which excludes holidays and birthdays and she will be on my health insurance plan starting next January. Hopefully some, if not all of it can be applied to any past unpaid amount.

The reason CP hasn't filed is because the she is self employed and had a assignment since the court order has been closed. The question is when her current contract end and if she doesn't have another one immediately available, that is when I expect her to file. She does believe it is money that is owed to her.

Hopefully she will stayed employed for a long time...

Thanks again. This thread has been very helpful. I was planning to try to settle out of court, but I now feel it best just to wait and see what happens.

Legally maybe it isn't owed to her, (and that is all that matters) but if I were her I would think it was owed to me as well. You were paying far below the standard amount when you were paying voluntarily, and she definitely spent money raising your daughter even when you weren't paying. It's nice you're doing stuff for your daughter now, but mom would like to be compensated. (whether she's legally entitled or not)

You are exactly right from what I have explained on this thread, but what I didn't explain was the first 15 years I was self employed and when the times I was not working and waiting for a new assignment I kept paying my monthly amount. I finally accepted a full-time permanent position with the company I am currently working for. So when she filed it was based on my current salary. If she filed at birth she would have gotten more overall, but there would have been a number of amendments every time I was out of work. Overall she would have gotten more but not twice as much as she think she would have. It just happen that to look that way by the turn of events. She never knew when I was working and when I wasn't. I kept my personal and business life from her. Maybe I should have kept her informed. I just made it a policy of mine to keep our conversation about our daughter only and everything else outside of our daughter was neither of our business to discuss. It worked well, but now she does feel slighted, ever since she filed because it was twice as much as I was paying. I could explain it to her but I am not. I don't think it will change how she feels. And to be honest, I don't think she would believe me. When someone thinks someone got over on them, they have trust issues.

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Quoting mmmagique

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Legally maybe it isn't owed to her, (and that is all that matters) but if I were her I would think it was owed to me as well. You were paying far below the standard amount when you were paying voluntarily, and she definitely spent money raising your daughter even when you weren't paying. It's nice you're doing stuff for your daughter now, but mom would like to be compensated. (whether she's legally entitled or not)

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Ordinarily I'd agree with you.

But with this one? Sorry, but he was over-paying right up until he was legally ordered to pay.