Can You Move Out of an Abusive Home at Age 16

My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of: north carolina

*please do not comment on grammer my sister spilled coffee on the keyboard and the keys are jammed.

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i am 16 years old. yesterday i finally got taken out off DSS custody. i do not want to go back. i live in a abusive house. i got taken out when i was 11 and just got put back in the house. i am the youngest of 5 and my whole life i have been abused physically and emotionally. i am not a dramatic person when i say abuse i mean kicking and punching and pulling hair. those sorta things. :(

so when i was taken out the house i thought it was the end of being abused but when i was in DSS custody i hated it. they cut me off from every one and i wasn't treating right. so i thought it would be better to lie to the court and say my dad wasn't at the house. i had visits with my mom and then i got placed back in the house. on visits my father got a little aggressive but didNT hit me. about a month ago he beat me and gave me a black eye and bruises on my nose and arm. :(

i ran away for a day and came back and my mom said if i wait till after court i can just leave and live with whoever i choose. Im a pretty strong person so i dealt with it and now that it is after court she is acting like she doesnt want me to leave. she didnt protect me what so ever when my dad hit me. i dont wanna live like this any more i want to leave to bad but i do not want to run away. i am not calling dss cause i hated living there. no relatives. any suggestions? :confused:

please no smart remarks or insults please only try to help me.

Fish or cut bait. You either accept the current conditions or the alternative. Perhaps one of your older siblings could be given custody.

none of my siblings can afford it

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Quoting almondy_love

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none of my siblings can afford it

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then just what can you suggest as a remedy to your situation? I understand that you would prefer neither but realistically, given your options, I suggest you choose the lesser of the two evils and go with that. Living on your own at 16 is not a piece of cake.

The very next time you (or any siblings still in the house) are physically abused, call cps. Do it every single time without fail. You really shouldn't be in that house.

Okay, this is not a snark. This is a question.

What do you propose? What is your solution that you would like to see? In an ideal world, where would you be living for the next two years?

(I'm going somewhere specific with this, but I do need to know what you WANT to have happen first.)

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i ran away for a day and came back and my mom said if i wait till after court i can just leave and live with whoever i choose.

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If by that your mom is saying that, once the protective services case against her and your father is dismissed and you are no longer under court supervision, she and your father are going to give you permission to move out of the home and into a safe, appropriate environment, that would be your parents' prerogative. It is not emancipation, and they can change their minds and tell you to come back home. But under the circumstances, were protective services again to become involved you can expect that they would take a long and hard look at your living arrangements to determine if they are, in fact, safe and appropriate.