Getting Visitation Changed So a Child Can Be Present When a Younger Sibling is Born

My question involves a child custody case from the State of:california

I am pregnant with my second child and due in July. My first child's dad gets him over the summer. I'm wondering if I have to get a custody modification to allow my son to be present for the birth of his sister and what the possibility will be for getting my son to stay the rest of the summer to spend time with his new born sister. Do I go and try to modify the custody arrangement?

Of course not. Dad's time is more important than watching you give birth.

You do understand that your son has two parents, yes? Not just you?

I hope it's a full moon or something.

So you suggest my son not even met his sister for a month because your an ass and didn't give any helpful advice on it?

Thanks, I appreciate your inconsiderate answer.

I'm not one to bash on my sons father, and I won't do it here, if you can't give any kind of information that would be useful then just don't respond.

How old is your son?

It's not necessary for the child to be there for the birth, much less the first month of the child's life.

Have you even talked to his dad about this to see if something can be worked out? I don't think he is likely to give you a full month but might be willing to offer some time.

A court isn't going to get involved in this without a whale of a good reason, even if you could get it docketed and heard before July.

You are free to file a motion, but "I had another kid" is not a basis for depriving the other parent of his visitation.

If you want to try to orchestrate contact during dad's parenting time, I suggest approaching dad and trying to work something out to which he agrees.

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Quoting Angel1234567

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So you suggest my son not even met his sister for a month because your an ass and didn't give any helpful advice on it?

Thanks, I appreciate your inconsiderate answer.

I'm not one to bash on my sons father, and I won't do it here, if you can't give any kind of information that would be useful then just don't respond.

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Wow, a whole month?! Oh, the horror!

What about dads who are serving overseas in the military, when their wives give birth, and don't get to meet their own child in person for sometimes a year or longer? Somehow they survive, and the child does too.

Your son will manage not being able to meet his baby sister for a month. If you're that concerned about it, why not arrange for some Skype sessions with you, him, and the baby, while he's away at Dad's?

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Quoting Angel1234567

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So you suggest my son not even met his sister for a month because your an ass and didn't give any helpful advice on it?

Thanks, I appreciate your inconsiderate answer.

I'm not one to bash on my sons father, and I won't do it here, if you can't give any kind of information that would be useful then just don't respond.

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You're welcome. I am not going to tell you what you want to hear.

The fact of the matter is that it's not Dad's problem if you have other children and want your mutual child present at the birth when it falls during Dad's parenting time.

End. Of. Story.

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Quoting Blossom

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Wow, a whole month?! Oh, the horror!

What about dads who are serving overseas in the military, when their wives give birth, and don't get to meet their own child in person for sometimes a year or longer? Somehow they survive, and the child does too.

Your son will manage not being able to meet his baby sister for a month. If you're that concerned about it, why not arrange for some Skype sessions with you, him, and the baby, while he's away at Dad's?

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I find it funny that you compare a 10 yr old to a grown man in the military

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Quoting Angel1234567

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I find it funny that you compare a 10 yr old to a grown man in the military

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It's funnier still that you think Dad's rights can be trampled because you've decided to pop out another child.

I came here to see what possibilities there were regarding my son being present for the birth of his first sister.

Yes, he wants to be there, no he should not be compared to an adult, as he's only 10.

Answers either way is what I was looking for, not some snyde remarks or a holes responding. Whether the proper response was for or against me, I came here to get some kind of answer for my question.