Soliciting of Sex From a Minor

It's a hard call. I met my ex-hub on a bands message board. And yes, that same forum has produced some long-term, living together/got married couples. And some good (and loyal) friends as well. You just have to take it with a grain of salt, and let them earn trust. After a while, it's easy to pick out the real people from the fakes.

Internet dating sites though....last time I was set to actually go on a date (restaurant) with someone...he promptly sent me a picture of his junk. Date cancelled.

I met my husband on an internet dating site. Yes, I needed to go through a lot of frogs before a prince came along. But we dated for a year before starting to talk about marriage; were engaged for a year and a half before the wedding and are coming up on our 9th wedding anniversary next month.

The world has changed. Like it or not, people meet on the internet. I've known my very bestest BFF since college but my next BFF? Met her right here on the law forums. Have visited her home, 3000 miles away from me, several times. Looking at another visti coming up shortly, we hope. Her daughters call me Aunty. And a number of the people I'm closest to, I've never met IRL; but we chat daily and know much about each other's lives.

But despite the fact that I acknowledge meeting online as a legitimate way to meet people in today's world, I cannot say the word stupid often enough to emphasize how stupid it is to immediately start in with sexual pictures, innuendo and chatting. I'm 100% with Carl on that. There are a number of reasons mentioned above and I agree with every one of them. Mature adults have better control of their hormonal reactions than that, and if you're not capable of reining in yours long enough to AT LEAST know for certain how old the person is, that doesn't speak well of you in a great many ways.

I do confess to having someone special. BFF. 5 months now, we've been on the phone more than ever and he did ask if I would move in....

I met mine on an internet dating type site. It's a bit different than the norm, but it makes it even more difficult to find someone who is the right fit. I talked to many, met two in real life, and decided on one. It happens. :)

I guess I'm a traditionalist. And, I was married well before cell phones or internet dating existed. It simply seems like one more "hurry up" tool in this world of instant gratification. We went from instant entertainment with video games to instant romance (or hookup).

Glad I don't have to deal with that anymore.

I was the outcast in school, so that didn't work for me.

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And the person I mentioned above...we've been BFF's for 12 years. Just the past 5 months realizing that after turning to each other every time one of us has a relationship failure...we may as well just face it.....

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Quoting cdwjava

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I just don't get how anyone can find a serious "relationship" on a website, chat room, or web forum. Those aren't really relationships, those are a series of exchanges where one online persona talks to another one.

Give me the old-fashioned way any time - where real people get to know real people.

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My sister dated a really nice, stable guy, who she met through a dating site. They ended up breaking up, because they just weren't right for each other long term, but stayed friends. He introduced her to one of his best friends, because he figured they'd hit it off, and they did. My sister ended up marrying the friend a few years later, and the ex boyfriend/friend was the best man at their wedding. It's possible to meet decent people online. People just need to use caution and common sense.

Caution and common sense....well said!

When I met ex-hub, I was 28. Family would not let me go alone to meet him, even though I planned on renting a car, meeting him in a huge mall, and not letting him know what motel I would be staying at. Had to take my mom along for the trip. :rolleyes:

When I do meet people, I like a nice public restaurant I am familiar with; I like knowing people that work at the restaurant and know me as well. And I go Dutch Treat, aka, I pick up my half of the tab, so if it doesn't work out, the guy can't be mad at me later or think I just wanted a nice meal on him.

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Quoting PandorasBox

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Caution and common sense....well said!

When I met ex-hub, I was 28. Family would not let me go alone to meet him, even though I planned on renting a car, meeting him in a huge mall, and not letting him know what motel I would be staying at. Had to take my mom along for the trip. :rolleyes:

When I do meet people, I like a nice public restaurant I am familiar with; I like knowing people that work at the restaurant and know me as well. And I go Dutch Treat, aka, I pick up my half of the tab, so if it doesn't work out, the guy can't be mad at me later or think I just wanted a nice meal on him.

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I have met lots of people in real life that I first got to know on the internet. No romantic relationships, just friends, but still, with "caution and common sense" its absolutely viable.