What Can Parents Do About an Out of Control 17 Year Old

My question involves juvenile law in the State of: NY

I have been a single mom since 2006. Now 17 year old son has had a variety of behavioral issues for the last 3-4 years. I have been in both family court and criminal court with him. He has smashed up my home, kicked in doors, punched walls, stolen from me, been caught with drugs. I have desperately reached out to services in my community but I feel like I am getting little or no help. Recently he decided he wanted to go live with his 18 year old girlfriend. I said no so the probation officer told him he had to come home. He later stated to me that the probation officer told him he could go there... not sure if that's true or not. Now though he is behaving as badly as he can. I remarried and he will intentionally try to start fist fights with my husband and claim to be a victim. He yells and screams profanity at us and does everything he can to get me to say "get out." I don't because I know I can't.

If he leaves and I don't have him retrieved... can he seek support from me? I'm barely getting by now because his behaviors have caused me to be called out of work and lose jobs and it's been a terrible struggle. What do I do?? I feel desperate. He recently got charged with endangering the welfare of a minor because he smashed through a solid wood interior door and my youngest son was home. I feel like we live in hell.

If he commits a crime, call the police. You are enabling him.

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Quoting Disagreeable

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If he commits a crime, call the police. You are enabling him.

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Agreed 100% hopefully he gets a wake up call before it is too late.

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Quoting Disagreeable

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If he commits a crime, call the police. You are enabling him.

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And damaging property IS committing a crime.

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Quoting KareLin1974

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If he leaves and I don't have him retrieved... can he seek support from me?

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If he leaves, you simply notify his PO and let his actions result in consequences via that mechanism. He can SEEK whatever he wants...support, the sun, the moon, world peace....but no, you're not going to be ordered to pay child support to a runaway with a criminal history and these issues. He will instead end up being supported by the tax dollars of yourself and your fellow New Yorkers while sitting behind bars.