Parent is Allowing a Preteen to Date an Adult

My question involves criminal law for the state of: Florida

My grand daughter is twelve. Her mother allows her to see a young man that graduated high school last year. So at the youngest he would have been 17 years old. Reasoning he is now 18 years old. His FB page states he is 19, along with his occupation listed as 'getting hoes'. She will be 13 in January and in her words dating him for five months. He dumped her a month a go and now is back in her life. I had posted concerns that she was way to young for transactions that were taking place and was advised by her that her momma lets her and nothing I can do about it. Her mother posted nasty comments advising me to mind my own business. Things I see and hear from all of my grands leaves me extremely concerned for safety reasons. I also had reasons to suspect she may be pregnant but am told that is not true. Mother has custody via divorce. I'm lost as to what to do. Would this be statutory rape, and would the mother be also liable in some way? So worried.

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Quoting mirma

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My question involves criminal law for the state of: Florida

My grand daughter is twelve. Her mother allows her to see a young man that graduated high school last year. So at the youngest he would have been 17 years old. Reasoning he is now 18 years old. His FB page states he is 19, along with his occupation listed as 'getting hoes'. She will be 13 in January and in her words dating him for five months. He dumped her a month a go and now is back in her life. I had posted concerns that she was way to young for transactions that were taking place and was advised by her that her momma lets her and nothing I can do about it. Her mother posted nasty comments advising me to mind my own business. Things I see and hear from all of my grands leaves me extremely concerned for safety reasons. I also had reasons to suspect she may be pregnant but am told that is not true. Mother has custody via divorce. I'm lost as to what to do. Would this be statutory rape, and would the mother be also liable in some way? So worried.

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Grandma, I find this very hard to believe. A 17-19 year old is NOT going to have any interest in a 12 year old.

However, if this is actually true, then your only option would be to make a report to CPS. However, its highly likely that mom is going to know that you were the one who made the report, so you need to be prepared for the fallout.

I'd call CPS and just deal with the fallout. OR....her school's guidance counselor. Atleast your grandchild would be better off. You might even be able to ask for guardianship.

I do believe the story....this guy could be a pedophile.

Men of any and every age "may" have an interest in a 12 yr old or even younger. And some 12 year olds look like 18 year olds with the "right" makeup and clothes.

I agree with Pandora; you need to tell someone...preferably a mandated reporter such as a teacher or counselor.

Who mentioned sex?

Well, the age difference is a concern. 19 and 12....and reason to suspect she may be pregnant.

His mention of "getting hoes"....I somehow don't think he is talking of panty hose or garden hoses and misspelling them....

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Men of any and every age "may" have an interest in a 12 yr old or even younger. And some 12 year olds look like 18 year olds with the "right" makeup and clothes.

I agree with Pandora; you need to tell someone...preferably a mandated reporter such as a teacher or counselor.

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I'm still wondering about Florida law. Is it legal for someone of that age to be with a minor as long as a parent gives permission and has no problem with it? I hope not, as that is what I am being advised. Her unwillingness to be with me and my disability I do not think her staying with me would be a possibility at this point. There are also three other children as well.

The law does not dictate friendship, or even dating. No law in any state dictates who may date. The law only references who can have sexual contact.

Is there reason to believe that there is sexual contact (not limited to intercourse)? If so, that is illegal.

If there is not, then the law does not give two hoots.

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I'm still wondering about Florida law. Is it legal for someone of that age to be with a minor as long as a parent gives permission and has no problem with it? I hope not, as that is what I am being advised. Her unwillingness to be with me and my disability I do not think her staying with me would be a possibility at this point. There are also three other children as well.

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It's absolutely legal.

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And where is the other parent?

Yes, there is reason to believe. She shows signs of pregnancy, (Belly and boobs). I still could be wrong about that but pretty sure there is a relationship. She stated she "didn't care what anyone thought, that she knows they will last forever and will bet this on his life, her life and their children's life" Which is where I posted "Way to young for this" Her thought process scared me. The sexual content would be illigal. Thank you for that answer. Is it also illegal for her mother to promote such behavior or activity? Could she be held accountable in any way?