Ex Doesn't Honor His Visitation Rights

The past two posts...not even what I am here for - thread has gone too OT now. Thanks.

You have some problems. First, as you have already been told, you are not going to be able to force dad to exercise his rights. The other is it appears it is you that is causing a lot Of the problems. If dad isn't typically at grandma's house, which is apparently where the child goes during dad's visitation time, stop making this a big "time to see dad" issue and a "let's go to grandma's house" time. It is you that is putting the expectation of seeing dad into the kids head. I suspect if you would help
grandma figure out ways to entertain the child, the visits with grandma with occasional appearances by dad could become very enjoyable times for the child. I know my grandchildren love coming to my house (the parents have an intact marriage). You seem to be the one causing the problems more than dad is.

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Quoting jk

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You have some problems. First, as you have already been told, you are not going to be able to force dad to exercise his rights. The other is it appears it is you that is causing a lot Of the problems. If dad isn't typically at grandma's house, which is apparently where the child goes during dad's visitation time, stop making this a big "time to see dad" issue and a "let's go to grandma's house" time. It is you that is putting the expectation of seeing dad into the kids head. I suspect if you would help
grandma figure out ways to entertain the child, the visits with grandma with occasional appearances by dad could become very enjoyable times for the child. I know my grandchildren love coming to my house (the parents have an intact marriage). You seem to be the one causing the problems more than dad is.

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While thats a nice assumption, since your a grandparent yourself, its his grandma that does the expectation of seeing dad and causes the disappointment - before he comes home, "next time daddy will be here."-grandma likes to state this loud and proud in front of me.... or "your mom should of let you stay longer so your dad could of came" --which my son comes home blaming me that he didnt see his dad because it was time for him to come home....or "your dad cant be here because he has to work to give your mom money"---another nice thing to hear from your son so he can again blame you for the reason his dad didnt show up - when its just an excuse.

I almost laughed when I seen your post.

I highly doubt I am the one causing problems.

I am trying to make changes because I don't want to see my son unhappy. I thought it was doing him just fine "hanging with grandma" and overlooking her immaturity of stupid excuses for his dad- even the ones that blamed me, as long as my son was happy, but after the emotionally expressed sadness that my son has now been displaying as hes getting older for his dad -hes no longer happy.

His dad USED to live there and see him after he moved out- up until the past two years, until he got a wife who doesn't like it- and has two more children now. - So going to grandmas, he's learned to expect dad before he could even talk. - either way if "hey lets go see grandma and pops" - hes always had his dad there too.

You best start teaching kiddo that happiness is never a guarantee. If you don't, he's going to sink once he becomes an adult ;)

Yep, sure. Its all grandma's fault but before that it was ex's fault. I really like the part where you got upset when dad disturbs your plans you made with the child by exercising his visitation rights. I guess if dad and grandma dropped dead you would be happy since faux dad could step right in with no need to attempt to usurp dad's rights like you are now doing.

i expect dad has a very different description of the events you describe.

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Quoting jk

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Yep, sure. Its all grandma's fault but before that it was ex's fault. I really like the part where you got upset when dad disturbs your plans you made with the child by exercising his visitation rights. I guess if dad and grandma dropped dead you would be happy since faux dad could step right in with no need to attempt to usurp dad's rights like you are now doing.

i expect dad has a very different description of the events you describe.

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:smug: lol...please