Probation/Parole Violation
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:confused: Will reporting my son for a probation/parole violation be something he can recover from and eventually go on to become a productive member of society from? What is likey to happen if I report him? We live in VA. My son is 19 and currently living at home. He has three younger siblings.
Yesterday afternoon I caught my son smoking pot on my property. He is currently on probation having already served time (about 4 months) of a misdemeanor larceny conviction. He has had several arrests as a juvenile and a couple as an adult. If I report this violation to his PO I believe he will have to serve the remainder of his time (about 8 months).
I'm at a loss as to what action to take. We love him dearly, but have been dealing with his antisocial behavior since 2001 and have had it.
My choices are:
1. Do Nothing - This option will ensure that the behavior continues.
2. Report him to his PO - This will most likely result in his going to jail.
3. Kick him out of the house - This will probably result in an obituary entry in the local paper.
Choice 1 is really not an option. Of 2 and 3, it seems like 2 may actually be the one that ensures his survival (Life!) for the time he's incarcerated. And - he should also be clean.
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:confused: Will reporting my son for a probation/parole violation be something he can recover from and eventually go on to become a productive member of society from?
Whether or not he becomes a productive member of society is solely up to him. That being said, Option 2 seems to fit the situation best. Yes, he may possibly go to jail but he will be clean while there, and hopefully he will seriously consider turning his life around.
You're a caring father and that's a good thing. Best wishes to you both.
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Have you ever discussed his situation directly with his probation officer? There may be inpatient treatment options available to him.
His conviction on a probation violation won't really worsen his record - he already has the underlying conviction. And he won't get better in terms of his substance abuse until he wants to. You have every right to tell him that he's not welcome in your house unless and until he's clean or, for that matter, that he's a grown-up and needs to take charge of his own life and find his own place to live.
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Aaron, Devastated,
I appreciate you both taking the time to respond. I found both replies to be helpful. I am planning on speaking directly with my son's probation officer on Monday.
I have drafted an "Eviction Notice" and was advised to discuss it with his PO before presenting it to him. I would like to make sure I have covered all bases just in case he does not react appropriately.
Thanks again... I can post results if anyone's interested.
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Aaron, Devastated,
I appreciate you both taking the time to respond. I found both replies to be helpful. I am planning on speaking directly with my son's probation officer on Monday.
I have drafted an "Eviction Notice" and was advised to discuss it with his PO before presenting it to him. I would like to make sure I have covered all bases just in case he does not react appropriately.
Thanks again... I can post results if anyone's interested.
Let's hope a little jail time helps him see the light.