My Ex- Wants More Child Support Than She Needs

My question involves child support in the State of: ALABAMA

My question involves child support in the State of: ALABAMA

I AM GOING BACK TO COURT FOR AN INCREASE. I HAVE A LAWYER WHO SAYS THE STATE WILL GRANT THE MODIFICATION DUE TO INCREASE OF PAY. OK FINE.
ALOT OF MY PAY IS OVERTIME, WHICH VARIES EACH MONTH BUT NORMALLY I HAVE IT. MOTHER GETS $740 A MONTH NOW WHICH IS FAIR FOR THE CITY IN WHICH SHE LIVES. (NEVER BEEN LATE & I SEE MY KIDS LIKE I SHOULD AKA NOT A DEADBEAT DAD)

I HAVE REASON TO BELIEVE SHE DOESN'T NEED MORE MONEY JUST WANTS MORE BC SHE RECENTLY DECIDED TO PUT BOTH KIDS IN PRIVATE SCHOOL. I WAS TOLD I DON'T DIRECTLY HAVE TO PAY FOR PRIVATE SCHOOL. (THEYVE ALWAYS WENT TO PUBLIC SCHOOL NEITHER MYSELF OR EX WENT TO PRIVATE SCHOOL) HOWEVER IF SHE NEEDS MORE MONEY FOR THEIR SO CALLED BASIC NEEDS (BC THAT'S WHAT CHILD SUPPORT IS FOR) THEN WHY IS SHE SENDING THEM TO PRIVATE SCHOOL? AND DO YOU THINK THE JUDGE WILL LOOK AT THIS & SEE THAT SHES JUST BEING GREEDY. BC AT THE END OF THE DAY, THE INCREASE WILL PAY FOR THE PRIVATE SCHOOL. (MAKE SENSE?)

WE ALSO KNOW THAT SHE IS LYING ABOUT THE CHILD CARE EXPENSE & WE HAVE PROOF OF WHAT THE SCHOOL CHARGES FOR BEFORE/AFTER SCHOOL CARE AND THE SUMMER CAMP COST FOR THE 8 WEEKS OF THE SUMMER THAT THEY ARE WITH THEIR MOM. ITS DEF NOT OVER $500 A MONTH THAT SHE IS ASKING ON THE FORM, MORE LIKE AN AVERAGE OF $125 OVER A 1 YEAR PERIOD. WHAT WILL THE JUDGE DO TO HER FOR KNOWINGLY LYING?

AND LASTLY SHE ASKING FOR ME TO PAY FOR HER HEALTH INSURANCE. (SHE IS REMARRIED WITH ANOTHER CHILD FROM HER CURRENT MARRIAGE) I CURRENTLY HAVE FAMILY HEALTH & DENTAL AND WOULD BE FINE ADDING OUR KIDS TO THE PLAN. CAN THEY MAKE ME PAY FOR HER HEALTH INSURANCE IF I HAVE SOME?

ALSO I DRIVE TO GET MY KIDS FOR VISITATION (2 HRS ONE WAY - 4 HRS ROUND TRIP- 8 HOURS PER WEEKEND --EVERY OTHER WKEND) IT COSTS ME ALOT IN GAS & MAINTENANCE ON MY CAR. I USED TO LIVE ALOT CLOSER & MOVED ABOUT 2 YRS AGO TO MAKE A BETTER LIVING, OF WHICH SHE IS NOW GOING TO BENEFIT FROM WITH THIS NEW INCREASE. I KEPT MAKING THE DRIVE & DIDN'T ASK HER TO MEET ME 1/2 WAY BUT NOW THAT SHE IS ABOUT TO GET A BIG INCREASE CAN I ASK THE JUDGE FOR A CREDIT TOWARDS MY CHILD SUPPORT FOR MILEAGE OF HER NON EFFORTS OR HAVE HER COURT ORDERED TO MEET ME HALF WAY NOW? I UNDERSTAND I MADE THE CHOICE TO MOVE BUT SINCE SHES GOING TO BENEFIT FORM THIS MOVE, CANT SHE BE HELD MORE ACCOUNTABLE SUCH AS I?

ALSO WHEN WE DIVORCED SHE WAS TOLD BY THE COURTS SHE WOULD CLAIM BOTH CHILDREN ON HER TAXES. NOW THAT IT LOOKS LIKE I WILL BE PAYING 80% OF WHAT THE ALABAMA STATE SAYS IT TAKES TO RAISE THE TWO CHILDREN, DO YOU THINK A JUDGE WILL MODIFY THIS? I WOULD LIKE TO BENEFIT SOME FROM PAYING ALMOST OFF THE COST OF RAISING THESE KIDS? EVERY OTHER YEAR WOULD BE GREAT.

ONCE NEW SUPPORT AMOUNT IS ESTABLISHED, I WAS TOLD I MAY OWE ARREARS FROM WHEN MOTHER FILED MODIFICATION. WHICH WAS IN THE SPRING. THE CASE HAS BEEN DRAWN OUT BC I HIRED A LAWYER, DOES THE JUDGE ALWAYS MAKE THE FATHER PAYS ARREARS? WHEN WILL IT BE DUE?

ARE THERE CASES WHERE A JUDGE MIGHT SEE THAT THE EX WIFE IS JUST BEING GREEDY & NOT AGREE TO WHAT THE STATE SAYS SHE SHOULD GET WITHIN REASON? I WANT TO TAKE CARE OF MY CHILDREN BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF BC OF HER OR A SCREWED UP SYSTEM.

THANKS

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Quoting BEINGFAIR13

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My question involves child support in the State of: ALABAMA

My question involves child support in the State of: ALABAMA

I AM GOING BACK TO COURT FOR AN INCREASE. I HAVE A LAWYER WHO SAYS THE STATE WILL GRANT THE MODIFICATION DUE TO INCREASE OF PAY. OK FINE.
ALOT OF MY PAY IS OVERTIME, WHICH VARIES EACH MONTH BUT NORMALLY I HAVE IT. MOTHER GETS $740 A MONTH NOW WHICH IS FAIR FOR THE CITY IN WHICH SHE LIVES. (NEVER BEEN LATE & I SEE MY KIDS LIKE I SHOULD AKA NOT A DEADBEAT DAD)

I HAVE REASON TO BELIEVE SHE DOESN'T NEED MORE MONEY JUST WANTS MORE BC SHE RECENTLY DECIDED TO PUT BOTH KIDS IN PRIVATE SCHOOL. I WAS TOLD I DON'T DIRECTLY HAVE TO PAY FOR PRIVATE SCHOOL. (THEYVE ALWAYS WENT TO PUBLIC SCHOOL NEITHER MYSELF OR EX WENT TO PRIVATE SCHOOL) HOWEVER IF SHE NEEDS MORE MONEY FOR THEIR SO CALLED BASIC NEEDS (BC THAT'S WHAT CHILD SUPPORT IS FOR) THEN WHY IS SHE SENDING THEM TO PRIVATE SCHOOL? AND DO YOU THINK THE JUDGE WILL LOOK AT THIS & SEE THAT SHES JUST BEING GREEDY. BC AT THE END OF THE DAY, THE INCREASE WILL PAY FOR THE PRIVATE SCHOOL. (MAKE SENSE?)

WE ALSO KNOW THAT SHE IS LYING ABOUT THE CHILD CARE EXPENSE & WE HAVE PROOF OF WHAT THE SCHOOL CHARGES FOR BEFORE/AFTER SCHOOL CARE AND THE SUMMER CAMP COST FOR THE 8 WEEKS OF THE SUMMER THAT THEY ARE WITH THEIR MOM. ITS DEF NOT OVER $500 A MONTH THAT SHE IS ASKING ON THE FORM, MORE LIKE AN AVERAGE OF $125 OVER A 1 YEAR PERIOD. WHAT WILL THE JUDGE DO TO HER FOR KNOWINGLY LYING?

AND LASTLY SHE ASKING FOR ME TO PAY FOR HER HEALTH INSURANCE. (SHE IS REMARRIED WITH ANOTHER CHILD FROM HER CURRENT MARRIAGE) I CURRENTLY HAVE FAMILY HEALTH & DENTAL AND WOULD BE FINE ADDING OUR KIDS TO THE PLAN. CAN THEY MAKE ME PAY FOR HER HEALTH INSURANCE IF I HAVE SOME?

ALSO I DRIVE TO GET MY KIDS FOR VISITATION (2 HRS ONE WAY - 4 HRS ROUND TRIP- 8 HOURS PER WEEKEND --EVERY OTHER WKEND) IT COSTS ME ALOT IN GAS & MAINTENANCE ON MY CAR. I USED TO LIVE ALOT CLOSER & MOVED ABOUT 2 YRS AGO TO MAKE A BETTER LIVING, OF WHICH SHE IS NOW GOING TO BENEFIT FROM WITH THIS NEW INCREASE. I KEPT MAKING THE DRIVE & DIDN'T ASK HER TO MEET ME 1/2 WAY BUT NOW THAT SHE IS ABOUT TO GET A BIG INCREASE CAN I ASK THE JUDGE FOR A CREDIT TOWARDS MY CHILD SUPPORT FOR MILEAGE OF HER NON EFFORTS OR HAVE HER COURT ORDERED TO MEET ME HALF WAY NOW? I UNDERSTAND I MADE THE CHOICE TO MOVE BUT SINCE SHES GOING TO BENEFIT FORM THIS MOVE, CANT SHE BE HELD MORE ACCOUNTABLE SUCH AS I?

ALSO WHEN WE DIVORCED SHE WAS TOLD BY THE COURTS SHE WOULD CLAIM BOTH CHILDREN ON HER TAXES. NOW THAT IT LOOKS LIKE I WILL BE PAYING 80% OF WHAT THE ALABAMA STATE SAYS IT TAKES TO RAISE THE TWO CHILDREN, DO YOU THINK A JUDGE WILL MODIFY THIS? I WOULD LIKE TO BENEFIT SOME FROM PAYING ALMOST OFF THE COST OF RAISING THESE KIDS? EVERY OTHER YEAR WOULD BE GREAT.

ONCE NEW SUPPORT AMOUNT IS ESTABLISHED, I WAS TOLD I MAY OWE ARREARS FROM WHEN MOTHER FILED MODIFICATION. WHICH WAS IN THE SPRING. THE CASE HAS BEEN DRAWN OUT BC I HIRED A LAWYER, DOES THE JUDGE ALWAYS MAKE THE FATHER PAYS ARREARS? WHEN WILL IT BE DUE?

ARE THERE CASES WHERE A JUDGE MIGHT SEE THAT THE EX WIFE IS JUST BEING GREEDY & NOT AGREE TO WHAT THE STATE SAYS SHE SHOULD GET WITHIN REASON? I WANT TO TAKE CARE OF MY CHILDREN BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF BC OF HER OR A SCREWED UP SYSTEM.

THANKS

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First of all, let me give you a little bit of Internet etiquette - don't post in all caps. It indicates yelling.

Now, why aren't you listening to your attorney, you know the one you are paying?

wasn't trying to yell. my apologies.
i am listening to my attorney. just curious about other peoples experiences is all.
didn't realize i would be subject to such harsh judgment on this forum.
Thanks Anyway.

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Quoting BEINGFAIR13

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wasn't trying to yell. my apologies.
i am listening to my attorney. just curious about other peoples experiences is all.
didn't realize i would be subject to such harsh judgment on this forum.
Thanks Anyway.

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Dude, if you consider this harsh, you're in for a rude awakening.:rolleyes:

i am asking for other ppls experience, lawyers cant predict everything. i am fully aware i am paying him. so please unless you have something helpful to say leave the thread alone

Child support is set by formula. If the formula says mom gets more support than you think she needs, that's too bad, but such is life.

If you believe that you can prove in court that your ex- is claiming expenses she's not incurring, work with your lawyer to prove that in court.

Stop being rude to the volunteers.

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Quoting BEINGFAIR13

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so please unless you have something helpful to say leave the thread alone

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You don't get a say in who responds. If you want to choose your respondents, you pay for the privilege. Frankly, it's ridiculous of you to ask total strangers to second guess your attorney.

You know, I wonder if dad knows that mom is out getting mani's and pedi's with his money. And if she is, she is completely within her rights to do so. Like I said.... very rude awakening.:cool: