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  • 08-03-2013, 07:07 PM
    reddteacher
    Civil Restraining Order for Stalking
    My question involves restraining orders in the State of: CA
    My question involves restraining orders in the State of: CA

    I'm wondering if I have enough to get a Civil Harassment Restraining Order based on stalking. My boyfriend's (BF) ex-wife recently contacted my ex-husband and ex-mother-in-law. She passed along paperwork regarding my BF (online profiles, insurance information, etc.) to both of them, trying to make him look like a criminal. I have never met my BF's ex-wife, so she must have found information about me and tracked down my ex-husband, because she is the one who showed up at my ex-husband's business. Due to her passing along this paperwork, my ex-husband and ex-mother-in-law are constantly texting, emailing and calling me to tell me to keep my son (11 years old) away from my BF. My ex-mother-in-law has now passed this information along to my parents in a different state. My parents are older and they know my BF and the craziness that is following him and have NO desire to get involved. But now my ex-mother-in-law is calling my mom and saying that she's worried about my son and I. It's upsetting them, too.

    (Before I go further, my BF and his ex-wife are in a custody battle over their 2 year old son. All of the paperwork she is sending my ex-husband and ex-mother-in-law I have seen. It is paperwork (court filings - TRO, etc.) that she tried to submit during their custody battle but was thrown out by the judge. She is a VERY wealthy woman with an endless amount of time on her hands. She even called in a fake embezzlement claim to one of my BF's friend's company and he almost lost his job over it. He was put on administrative for the investigation, and thankfully it was found to be a false claim. She admitted to making the claim a year later and received no consequence.)

    This whole thing is making me sick. I am scared she is going to start contacting people I work with. I'm a teacher and any false claim, I would loose my credential. My son is getting texts from his father and grandma, stating that their worried about him and they "know the truth" about everything. I had to take away his phone and get him a new number.

    All of the stuff she is doing involves my BF but she's causing me emotional distress. He is going after her for passing out confidential paperwork, but I am petrified she may cost me my job and/or cause more damage to my son's relationship with his father and grandma.
  • 08-03-2013, 07:15 PM
    Disagreeable
    Re: Civil Restraining Order - Stalking
    I suggest you leave him and find someone with less drama in their life, before you find yourself unemployed.
  • 08-04-2013, 12:15 AM
    cdwjava
    Re: Civil Restraining Order - Stalking
    It doesn't sound like your boyfriend's ex-wife is contacting you directly or indirectly. A CHO would be to prevent her from contacting you - which, she's not.

    If your family and ex family does not want her to contact them, THEY can seek CHOs if they can. If your BF feels that she is accessing information she does not have a right to possess and is unlawfully distributing it, HE can take whatever appropriate legal action he feels necessary.

    At this point, I don't see that you have any possibility of a CHO as you are not the target of this woman's contacts.

    You can spend a few dollars and talk with an attorney and see if they might be willing to send a "cease and desist" letter, but there may be nothing that can be done if she ignores such a letter. Maybe a consultation with an attorney is a good place to start.
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