My Mother is Taking My Child Support and Using It for Her Own Needs

My question involves child support in the State of: California but I now live in idaho
My mother has been receiving child support for 1995 I am now 18 years old And haven't lived with her for at least a year now. She decided to take her 23-year-old boyfriend In and let me stay out in the streets. I've been sleeping in parks, then friends couches, then boyfriends mothers boyfriends house wich was not a good environment. I became pregnant April 2013 and decided to leave to idaho to live with boyfriends father. My mother has been receiving child support and I have not been home, so she has not been supporting me at all I had to get welfare and food stamps to support myself. Now she's moving to Los Angeles , has been givin an house and is going to use the child support money to pay her bills and buy clothes and food for herself. I don't know what to do I'm going to start taking classes to recieve my GED And then go to college but I need money to help keep up with college exspensis and support my child. I'm trying to start a new life and I don't wAnt to be on welfare forever becuse of my selfish mother.

You say she "let" you "stay out in the streets". Is she supposed to hunt you down and drag you home? If she's providing you with the opportunity to come home and you want to go home, you know what to do. The fact that you choose not to live at home does not mean that the home is suddenly free to your mother.

Your father is free to petition to terminate support, if the facts support such a motion and if he wishes to do so.

Your mother is entitled to the child support until dad has it terminated. You are not entitled to any of it. Dad is free to go to court and argue you have emancipated yourself and therefore he no longer needs to pay it.

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Quoting Mr. Knowitall

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You say she "let" you "stay out in the streets". Is she supposed to hunt you down and drag you home? If she's providing you with the opportunity to come home and you want to go home, you know what to do. The fact that you choose not to live at home does not mean that the home is suddenly free to your mother.

Your father is free to petition to terminate support, if the facts support such a motion and if he wishes to do so.

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Did not mean to say that , she kicked me out because I did not feel comfortable with living with her boyfriend in my home

the child support money belongs to your mother. The only question is: is it arrears or payments due when they are being paid?


If it is arrears, that is your mother's money. That is what your father should have been paying your mother to assist in raising you. It would still be owed to her and not you.


If it is currently owed; it is still your mother's money but since you have moved out, your father should have his child support order amended, or terminated actually, because since you are not living with your mother, your father should no longer continue to be required to pay current child support.

nobody owes you anything at this time. You are an adult and expected to pay your own way in life now.

Unless you paid for it, it's not your home. You're 18 now. Time to find your OWN home away from potential dysfunction at mom's house. The child support issue is between dad and mom. Feel free to remind dad that now that you're an adult and that he may want to pay enough attention to you to realize your age, and enough attention to his checkbook to see if he might want to seek termination of support. Until HE gets off his duff and takes action, he can expect child support to be taken from him until your own children reach 18 (well, maybe not that long...but you get the point....it isn't going to happen automatically).

If you have a child to support, the person to talk to is the father of that child. The child support from your father wouldn't go to you anyway, it would just stop.

Child support is not payable to the child. Period. It is intended to reimburse the custodial parent for the money she (in this case) spent on the child's care, which includes but is not limited to, keeping a roof over the child's head, light in the wires, water in the pipes, food on the shelves, etc. It is NOT supposed to be handed over to a legal adult who wants Mom to pay for her own child.

When Mom and Dad made you, the law made them responsible for paying for your care until you turned 18. When you and your bf made a baby, guess who became responsible for paying for that baby until he or she turns 18? I've got news for you, cupcake, it isn't your Mom and Dad.

Mom is not the one who is coming across as selfish here.