Interstate Relationship Between an Adult and a Minor

My question involves criminal law for the state of: Oklahoma as well as Arizona.

I will try to make this short. I like in Oklahoma. I am 16 and I am in a relationship with a man who is turning 23 this year. He lives in Arizona. We have not done anything illegal that I know about. I would just like to know if the age of consent is the same for him of he visits me in Oklahoma.

My parents don't know about the relationship. We met a year ago and have been in a relationship ever since. We plan on marrying eachother. I would also like to know if it is legal that we are in a relationship. I know there are no laws or restrictions on relationships. But, what are things we could get into trouble for during our relationship until I reach the age of an adult?

Ask yourself why a 22 year old adult would be interested in a 15 year old minor.

If you can answer logically (which I doubt), then ask yourself this:

Why can't he approach your parents?

Why can't he wait until you reach the age of majority before embarking on anything other than what he'd do with his grandmother?

If it's true love, surely he'll wait - right?

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(Hon - he's got no intention of marrying you. He simply misspelled, "grooming")

The thing is you don't have the full story. Nor, will you understand. And I am 16, not 15.

He is willing to wait, I was curious if I reached for his pants, if he could get into trouble.

He cannot approach my parents because I said so. My parents would freak out. Because, we met online.

He is interested in me for the same reason I am interested in him. We saved eachothers lives. We were both very depressed, and we both self-harmed.

The night we met I saved his life. We got to know eachother but, us both being in a relationship said nothing.

After his crazy bitch of a girlfriend dumped him for no valid reason and he was crushed, we started dating a little while after. We both found out we have a lot of common and love eachother very much.

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I didn't expect anyone to understand. But, I asked if he could get into trouble. And I asked what we could get into trouble for.

I do not wish to justify my relationship to yet another human being that does not understand how love can work between a 16 and 23 year old.

Sorry, I would just like the answers to my questions not another scolding. I do not mean to offend you or anything of that manner, I would simply like an answer to my questions.

You want the truth? You may not be able to handle the truth! (That's an attention grabber, not a humor attempt!!!)

YES! He can get into serious trouble! And if there's a state-line crossing it's FEDERAL in addition to state and/or local law violations.

Another YES! I say yes to the fact that you need some sorta professional help. First for your depression issue(s) that led to your "....we both self-harmed.", and your (quite likely) lack of parental involvement that allows you, a naive "16" year old, unfetterd access to the internet.

Have you ever seen Dateline NBC's series "To Catch A Predator"? Or the current series "Catfish" airing new episodes on MTV? I would say, with prolly 99.998% certainty, that the 23-year-old you're in a 'relationship' with is not 23 nor in the location he alleges.

This excerpt speaks volumes....."He is interested in me for the same reason I am interested in him. We saved eachothers lives. We were both very depressed, and we both self-harmed.

The night we met I saved his life. We got to know eachother but, us both being in a relationship said nothing."

You have to seek help Alice!!!!! At 16 you may think you have the world by the balls and you know what's best for you because, as you put it, "I didn't expect anyone to understand..." We do understand Alice..............way more than you'll ever know or live long enough to find out for yourself!

You seem like an intelligent girl! I can tell that by your sentence construction and proper grammar.......it's amazing to me sometimes how many people anymore lack those basic skills.....all you hafta do is look around this site, for example, to see how many postings are put up with less than stellar grammar, punctuation, spelling, etc... by folks way more older than you are.

BUT! At the end of the day, the facts will simply remain that you appear to be in significant need of assistance for issues that you are simply not equipped to adequately address at your age, AND, you need to focus on real relationship(s)!!!!! Not ones that start out between two distant individuals over any sort of electronic means. Get into a relationship the old-fashioned way, face-to-face!

I'm hoping against hope that some of this advice is taken to heart............

By crossing state lines you are making it FEDERAL charges that he would be imprisoned on - and that means yes, even if you are the one who takes the initiative.

Notice that I am not saying if he goes to prison - I am saying when he goes to prison. And I mean big-boy prison, not jail.

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Quoting Alice5632

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He cannot approach my parents because I said so. My parents would freak out. Because, we met online.

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No, they would freak out because he is a sex offender

Honey:

First, until you have met in person.....this guy could be a 50 year old, fat, druggie, sex offender for all you know. Anyone can send pics online easily that are not of them. He can tell you a story because that is what you want to hear, and it can all be a lie.

Next: 23 and 16. Quite a gap. Why can't he find someone his own age?

If you even talk sex, touching, kissing....if you meet and you touch his crotch or he touches you in any way...he will go to PRISON. Then spend the REST OF HIS LIFE on the sex-offender registry. That will affect where he can live (so many yards from children), where he can work (no retail or fast food or anyplace he can encounter children).

OMG another I love him by internet, will be knocked up and abandoned by 19 girl.

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I do not wish to justify my relationship to yet another human being that does not understand how love can work between a 16 and 23 year old.

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The howls of laughter you're hearing are mine, because you have already made up your mind that you're going to do as you please anyway, and think that things are going to go your way.

Your parents will not freak out because you met online, they will freak out because you are being pursued by a predator. Yes, that's what we call grown adults who pursue relationships with CHILDREN. You are legally still a child, under the complete care and control of your parents, and until such time as you turn 18, they OWN you. And that's actually a good thing, because you're clearly not rational enough to make good decisions on your own. You need to approach them about getting you into counseling to deal with your depression and self-harming tendencies. There are therapy and medication options available to you that are going to be far more effective than some creep on the internet.

You're planning to marry this dude, sight unseen? You "saved each other's lives"? Oh, drama. You did nothing of the sort. He has found a vulnerable young girl, and he's playing you like a well tuned violin.

Before you start telling me that I "don't understand", I do. I have a house full of people that I met on the internet fifteen years ago. We all met in a USENET group, and some of them eventually married each other. But here's the thing - we all got together in groups in public places for many years before we ever visited each other's homes, and no one was pledging their troth sight unseen. Relationships certainly can BEGIN online, but if you're already talking true love and marriage without ever having met and spent serious time together, SOMETHING IS VERY WRONG. If you feel like you have to hide this "relationship" from your parents, SOMETHING IS VERY WRONG.

Screw your head on straight, kid. Run far and run fast from this guy. This not the real thing.

Why is it so darn hard for people to follow the forum rules?