Recourse After A Custody Hearing and Change of Custody

I KNOW!!! I'm just so angry and upset!! I can't explain how much I love this child! I would do anything for them! It KILLS when they cry to me how they want to live with us! Its only going to get harder and i'm having a hard time with this. I just can't seem to understand how someone who wanted nothing to do with their child suddenly just takes everything away.

Everything is supposed to be in the best interest of the child.

This just doesn't seem to be in the best interest of the child. It seems more like a punishment because my husband made a few mistakes. Which will never happen again!!

I think we can all identify with the frustration.

We hurt for the kids, we hurt for our spouses. And yes, we hurt for ourselves too because while we have no legal input, these kids become part of our hearts. I doubt one person here will ever dispute that.

On my ideal Planet Doggie? Parents would co-parent harmoniously and effectively, and they'd recite the mantra "love your kids more than you hate your ex" faithfully and repeatedly. Unfortunately that doesn't happen too often.

So all we can do is learn to smile sweetly, let the parents do their thing and just make sure that the kids know that they can never be loved by too many people.

You and Dad need to focus now on the future. Don't wait around hoping Mom will mess up. Focus on being the best family unit that you can. That can only ever benefit the kids.

Know where I'm coming from?

Yes I do.

When we have the child we make sure they know how much we love them. (Maternal family tells them we don't, they have said it in front of us to them.) Ugh, sorry that is not the point.

I try to keep a smile on my face when they tell me stories of their week with maternal family.

When we go a few days or a week without seeing them, my heart literally hurts. I get worried they will turn the child against us. I've heard of that happening with a few people I know.

I can just hope the child feels the love we have for them and knows we will always be here for them.

I'm still just hoping this will turn around and everything can be equal again.....
For awhile before court, when the mom came back into the child's life I was actually able to co-parent with her. :/

The kids will know.

They always do, Stepmom. They always do :)

There's never an easy solution in child custody cases. Stepmother's don't really have any rights in this area. I say stay out of it, let the courts decide. Demeaning the birth mother won't work well in the dad's favor either.