Recourse After A Custody Hearing and Change of Custody

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I only want helpful replies!!

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You don't seem to appreciate the ones you've been getting. No, they aren't what you want to hear, but they are legally correct, and around here, legally correct is all that matters.

Actually, I do have some further commentary.

Dad apparently excluded Mom from some major decision-making - yes, that would be a reason for a judge to switch custody. That Dad didn't realize/know he was doing wrong is not the point.

As had been said several times now, in order for things to change there needs to be a SUBSTANTIAL change in circumstances.

And by that, I do not mean "Let's look for things to throw at Mom". Remember, slinging mud leaves your own hands dirty.

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Quoting angrystepmom

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Oh gotcha!
So from what I'm understanding is that it does not matter that the mom was in and out of her child's life for many years, dad was always a constant!

Mom can constantly move around.

Mom should see child more than dad.

Oh did I mention that mom also had made a dr appt without consult with dad? With a dr the child had never seen before?
But that is totally acceptable because she is the mom?

I understand the SUBSTANTIAL change needs to take place!!!

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You're whining. It's not becoming of a good stepparent.

Because believe me, if we can sense your attitude? So can the child.

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Quoting angrystepmom

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Oh gotcha!
So from what I'm understanding is that it does not matter that the mom was in and out of her child's life for many years, dad was always a constant!

Mom can constantly move around.

Mom should see child more than dad.

Oh did I mention that mom also had made a dr appt without consult with dad? With a dr the child had never seen before?
But that is totally acceptable because she is the mom?

I understand the SUBSTANTIAL change needs to take place!!!

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Appreciate replies? What replies have I gotten to appreciate? Oh that I'm a bad person because I give a damn about a child that isn't biologically mine when that child's biological mother decided she rather go party instead of beginning a mother in the first place? Pssh okay!

I understand the substantial crap! I wanted help with maybe what my husband could us as a substantial change. The POS judge took in too consideration what her family said. "what a perfect mom she is" Did you know that that perfect mom had said she wished she never had that child! She is only try to make my husband miserable! And that is a quote from her!

Awesome mother!

Maybe you all should go vote for mother of the year for her!!

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Oh good grief. Stop. Please.

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Quoting angrystepmom

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I don't talk about any of this to the child or around them. I enjoy the small amount of time with her, i'm not going to waste it talking about their pos mom.

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And this wonderful Mom is who your husband chose to have a child with.

Time to suck it up. Because I can see your attitude completely sinking your husband in court.

Thanks but no thanks.

I didn't have an attitude until she decided to go back on their agreement.

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Quoting angrystepmom

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Thanks but no thanks.

I didn't have an attitude until she decided to go back on their agreement.

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That's the problem. You don't get to have an attitude about Mom. Dad does, sure. But you? Not so much.

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Quoting Dogmatique

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That's the problem. You don't get to have an attitude about Mom. Dad does, sure. But you? Not so much.

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Why?

Oh you must be a bitter mom as well.

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Quoting angrystepmom

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Why?

Oh you must be a bitter mom as well.

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Because you're a legal stranger. Look - whining and moaning here isn't going to help your husband. He has an attorney.

Love,

Stepmom of 2.

;)

I'm assuming your step children's mother is actually there for them?

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Regardless you are right. Complaining is not going to help our situation.

Thank you for all your input(seriously).

I guess we can just go call a lawyer than never answers and hope the mom messes up, again.

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Quoting angrystepmom

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I'm assuming your step children's mother is actually there for them?

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You assume incorrectly.

Look. Can I offer some practical advice here?

Being a stepparent is bloody hard. It's often thankless. It's a really hard lesson to have to realize that your role is supportive and you basically have little-to-no rights to get overly involved with the actual parenting. It's even harder if and when the other parent isn't around for the kids. But it is what it is. We have to learn our place. We've gotta learn when to shut up, and when to speak up.

You're dissing Mom right, left and center. You called her a pos. Fine. But you realize you also called the child half a pos? That's essentially what you're saying. You've got to be SO careful.