Do I Meet the Requirements of Emancipation
My question involves juvenile law in the State of: Arkansas
Alright, here goes. *Deep Breath*..
I am looking to hear that all is not lost, but if that is not the case then do not mislead me or lie.
From the title of my thread, you must know I am looking to become emancipated. I will describe my situation so you can decide whether or not I have legitimate reason.
My mother and I had a falling out after an awful fight in the second grade, I will spare you the details. Growing up, I was a daddy's girl, and I believed anything he told me. At the time I didn't see it, but as I now look back, he was quite prejudice and verbally immoral to my half sister. In one instance he was so angry, I can't even remember about what, he picked my sister up by her leg and twirled her around painfully. In another, i remember he had us doing the dishes and my sister 'didn't do them right' so he pushed me to do them correctly, however then I 'didn't do them right' and he grounded me to my downstairs bedroom. There was a door between mine and my sister's rooms, and I knocked on it to get her attention. It didn't take ten minutes before my dad was barreling downstairs and shoved my mattress, with me on top of it, of of my bed frame into the closet doors. Later that night, however, I received an apology. At that time, I was still really young and naive. I continued to believe in my dad.
Two and a half years ago my father ran into some back issues and was prescribed a variety of pills. He began to have serious mood swings in which verbal monstrosities were thrown my way constantly. I immediately blamed these mood swings on the pills he was being prescribed and patiently waited for him to become used to them. However, after months and months of dealing with things the best I could (doing things around the house without being asked, trying to stay out of my parents' way), I gave up. School became to demanding and I couldn't handle it. My sister however, was just graduating and finding a job. She did not head to college, for my parents needed money. Instead, she found a job, and each paycheck went straight into my parents' pockets (my sister received 50 dollars in order to buy herself lunch for her lunch breaks, but what is 50$ when she was supposed to be receiving close to 300? ). She was too afraid to stick up for herself, I suppose.
Things among my family deteriorated rapidly. I stayed away from home as much as I could, although I couldn't drive. I was/am in my school's band, and before I could drive my mom was responsible for picking me up after practice. When she first started having to routinely pick me up, I said thank you, however it did not save me from the mountains of complaints I would receive. She would tell me I was selfish for making her pick me up, she would tell me how awful my father was for not picking me up himself. I thought all mothers did that. I thought all mothers hated picking their children up from school.
At the end of last year, a family legal incident occurred and my sister is now in jail. I have unfortunately been dealt the brunt of my parents' complaints since.
When my high school career began, I challenged and pushed myself into Advanced courses. When it came to take the Advanced Placement Test for the course I was taking last year, I had to arrive at school early. My dad argued that there was no such thing as Advanced courses and told me I was a liar and was selfish to ask for a ride to school. (He only completed the 7th grade.)
This year I have not had the time to be home much, nor have I wanted to be. I have not been able to wash the laundry, do the trash, clean house, etc. as I once was. I do however, do what I can when I can. I hold my homework over doing housework, and my parents' believe this is wrong. My father once told me and I quote, "Homework is a privilege". Which, in a sense, it is. But, that does not mean my dad should take that away... does it? It's homework for goodness sake! I wake up and go to bed listening to how terrible I am. A little over a year ago, I began dating someone and that someone told me that my home life isn't normal. I met his mother, and I realized that he was right. Parents are supposed to care, are supposed to show up to programs that their child is involved in. (My dad showed up to ONE of my band concerts, only after having an argument in which I accused him of not caring, my mother and brother and sister came to one in the spring of my 9th grade year). Parents aren't supposed to complain when they have to fulfill their duties. I am always asking myself if I am just being an immature teenager, if I have exaggerated things. I know I'm not. My normal is not supposed to be a normal. Very VERY recently, my parents filed for bankruptcy (they really are not good at managing their money) and they cannot provide for me. A couple of weeks ago, my parents and brother visited a zoo and left me NO food for the day. The other day, my dad asked me to fix drinks for dinner and I fixed my mother water. She came in screaming that I had wasted a glass because she had one downstairs and poured the water out and threw the glass in the sink. Just last night, my brother invited me to eat supper with them (I've stopped. Eating dinner with them ends in a controversial discussion in which I am tortured with my father's bigotry and prejudice), I replied no but that I will eat later. Right after they have finished eating, I head into the kitchen to find NO food. I looked down, they had put the leftovers ON THE CAT'S PLATE. :mad:
Alright, now that you have suffered through my explanation. I am only sixteen years old, and from what I have researched, I know I have to be 17 to become emancipated. I'm just not sure if I meet some of the other requirements. I am entering into a summer job (I will have it every summer) and I will look for a part-time job when I am not employed during the summer. My boyfriend's mother plans to take me in, my boyfriend will be living on a college campus besides on breaks, and I will probably attempt to pay some sort of rent. The money this summer that I receive is going to pay for my senior year in high-school. I do NOT have an attorney and I know I will not be able to afford one.. I'm looking into a health care plan..(Would it be agreeable if I could get on my boyfriend's mothers..?) I have all a's and B's with the occasional C.. I'm pretty sure that covers it.
I feel that I deserve to become Emancipated. I have basically raised myself, and am still pondering how in the world I have been able to handle the situation I am in. I feel that it is unfair for my parents to be able to stand up at my graduation and boast about how they helped me to where I am when they absolutely have NOT. I also feel it is unfair for my father to be receiving social security benefits off me when he does NOT provide for me financially nor emotionally. At this moment, the only thing my parents' have provided is a house to live in and a bed to sleep on, which yes is a great deal, however I would rather be homeless than continue to deal in this situation. My aunt knows of the situation, also, she has been here for me throughout. I'm not sure she actually believes the extent of it, she hasn't been able to see it first-hand as my boyfriend and his mother and my friends have.
Thank you for reading and I hope I have not destroyed your faith in humanity. PLEASE reply with your much needed advice-
Re: Do I Meet the Requirements of Emancipation
Your post is much too long and densely typed to read. Hit the enter key occasionally.
However, I don't have to read your post to know the answer to your question. Emancipation is NEVER granted on the basis of your having a bad home situation. On the very, very rare cases that it is granted, it is because you have a proven history of living on your own and paying all your own support.
Emancipation is not and never was intended to be a means for a minor to leave home. It was and is intended to be a means to provide legal protections to those minor who, for reasons outside their own control, found themselves living on their own.
Re: Do I Meet the Requirements of Emancipation
So you are a spoiled child whose lousy parents have permitted her to much freedom. Now that she has a non caucasian boyfriend, she expects her parents to bow down and allow her to run with him all the time and continue accepting no responsibility at home. Nope, being young, immature and hating your parents is not grounds for emancipation. BTW, the exercise walking to school is good for you. Thx for playing.
Re: Do I Meet the Requirements of Emancipation
Alright, I apologize for that-
And really? Okay... I'm looking for a way out, and I really thought this was it.
Well- another question, I am not 18 until AFTER I graduate high-school, between my graduation and the date I turn 18, I'm still unable to leave, aren't I?
Re: Do I Meet the Requirements of Emancipation
Yes, really. You're talking about living with other people and getting on someone else's insurance (btw, no, you would not be able to do that unless she had a court ordered guardianship of you - you wouldn't be an eligible dependent otherwise) and that's not emancipation - that's someone else supporting you.
The law does not say you are a legal adult when you turn 18 or graduate from high school - it says when you turn 18.
If you are being physically abused, you can call CPS. They will investigate and if they find reason, will take you out of the house. They will NOT emancipate you. Think foster care. Think group homes.
The sad fact is, you are there until you turn 18 unless you have parental permission to move out (to live with your aunt, perhaps? Would they allow that?) or the state removes you, and if the state removes you it will be on their terms, not yours.
I'm simply telling you the facts here.
Re: Do I Meet the Requirements of Emancipation
Sometimes, reality sucks. Sometimes, it is our reality. Good Luck.