Unsafe Living Habits

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: North Carolina

On Monday, I and my sons mother will be going to court to settle visitation rights. She had been living in my parents home for quiet sometime and when caught being disrespectful to my parents is being kicked out . Now this is not the first time this has happened and shes willingly put my son in less than adequate living situations . The place she is moving into owner does not mind smoking around children using fowl language or keeping the house a filthy mess. Is there a way I can get social services to inspect the house unexpectedly? As well for another post the mother refuses to get a job yet doesn't want gov't help but is about to put me on child support. Is there a way I can go to Social services and put myself on child support before she goes?

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As well for another post the mother refuses to get a job yet doesn't want gov't help but is about to put me on child support.

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what? If the child is with the mother, you better damn well believe you owe child support. It is your child after all. Is there some reason you believe you shouldn't be paying child support?

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Is there a way I can go to Social services and put myself on child support before she goes?

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absolutely but not social services; family court. It sounds like there is no custody, visitation, or support order. It would do you well to seek orders for each of those.


have you even been established as the legal father either through a court mandated DNA test or by filing an AOP?

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The place she is moving into owner does not mind smoking around children using fowl language or keeping the house a filthy mess.

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smoking is legal so the courts are not going to remove a child from a home where people smoke. Foul language (fowl language would be the sounds a bird would make) is discouraged but generally not an adequate reason to do anything. Filth is a matter of perspective. If it is unhealthy, then the issue could be investigated by CPS and dealt with.

Smoking, cussing, and clutter do not an unfit parent make.

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Is there a way I can get social services to inspect the house unexpectedly?

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CPS is not your Goon Squad. If the children are being abused and ACTUALLY neglected, sure, call 'em. But again, smoking, cussing, and clutter are neither abuse nor neglect.

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Is there a way I can go to Social services and put myself on child support before she goes?

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Yes, you can voluntarily pay child support. Why are you only just now getting around to it?