Mother Moved to a Complete Stranger's House

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: ky

Ive been with my daughters mom for over 6 years now and she decides one day that she doesnt love me any more and that she needed to think. i had called the police over my daughter staying with me (her father) because I was in fear of the child being moved out of her environment. She told police that she would be staying at her fathers house with the child. A stranger picked her up and she had left with the baby. worried i called her dad and he had no idea she was leaving. 2 days later she had told me she had met this guy on a dating site a few days ago, decided to meet him at the local mall, and then move in with him. this guys lives nearly 2 states away. There was no need to take my little girl away from her home when there was no abuse of any kind to any one of them. I paid all the bills while she had no job for nearly four years. I begged her to bring Devan back home and she did, we arranged a pick up but since she legally got away with pretty much kidnapping our child because she wanted to be a child herself, i put out an emergency custody paper and won. her drs, family, learning programs, where she resided to live is all here. I will not endanger our daughter to a strange man she doesnt know. Im trying to fight this tooth and nail. so i will not give up on my kid and put her at risk. my child is my life. she is safe here. now lawyers are saying that they will throw this case out tomorrow and that we will have to get other lawyers and pay them for a custody battle. my question is this. i am not keeping my child from her, she can come see her. but ill be damned while im alive this guy will be a part of it. so since i have her and i am trying to protect her and she could legally keep her from me since we have equal rights can i keep her from this man? the lawyers told me that she can live where she wants to seeing she is a custodial parent and that who ever the child is with can live at until there is a court hearing. i dont want it to come to this, i just wanted to be a normal family but her wreckless behavior will not get my kid hurt. period. can some of you help me out?

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now lawyers are saying that they will throw this case out tomorrow and that we will have to get other lawyers and pay them for a custody battle.

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What lawyers are telling you this? Her lawyers? Yours?

I assume you and Mom were never married, but you have established legal paternity? If you haven't retained counsel, you need to do so immediately and file for custody.

both atternys said the same thing. im talk to a another one to file for custody but she said most likely they wouldnt file on my behalf and im like why? i have to prove shes an unfit mother. like living with a stranger isnt unfit?

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like living with a stranger isnt unfit?

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Nope, it isn't. She's similarly not unfit if she's a stripper, hooker, or alcoholic. As long as the child is being properly housed, fed, clothed, and cared for, you're going to have a nearly impossible time proving her legally unfit.



For the folks playing along at home, this is why you have custody and visitation orders in place if you're not married - even if you're living together.

I'm confused... You said you have custody via an emergency petition? And you have your daughter with you now? But you have to go back to court, when mom can actually be present, and have another trial? Perhaps the custody you have is temporary pending the outcome of the coming trial?

If the above is true, your best bet may be to stall/postpone the trial for as long as possible and solidify your role as primary parent to your daughter. Have you actually retained an attorney? Sounds like you need one. He/she can help you with determining your best course of action and with attempting to postpone the trial date if it is decided that would be a good strategy.

Really, truly, mom is allowed to bring whomever she wants that isn't a proven danger to the child during her time, and that won't change no matter how much time she ends up with. You can't control that in the least, nor should you be able to, really. After all of this dies down and settles, you should try to work with mom so that each of you can spend as much time with your daughter as possible.

sorry should of got more into detail. after she facebooked me she told me that she had moved and i begged her to bring my daughter to me. and she said ok. my daughter has seperation anxiety from me when shes away and i bet the only reason why she bought her back is because she was screaming for dadda. when she bought her home being the concerned parent (hysterically concerned) that my little girl was at some strangers house where he could be beating her or they could be on some sex benge neglecting her... yea i went for that emergency custody. i did not want her going back to that guys house. for god sakes i thought they were dead. so they awarded me it for 3 days but i have court in the morning and both mine and her lawyers said they were going to throw it out. we talked civilly about the best well being of the child and thank god we came to the agreement that while shes thinking about things (getting that sex out of her system) its in the best interest that my baby stays with me so she has her dr's and her first steps programs she cant miss. if she decides to stay with the guy then we will hit that crossroad and go from there. this has been the most stressful thing ever. and if you guys are asking why in my mind would i take her back is because the simple fact of i understand why shes doing this. shes young and never had a chance to do something.... well... stupid. im 8 yrs older than she is, im 30 and shes 22. and regardless what shes done shes family. and you forgive your family. i hope she comes home... im crossing fingers. no matter how much it hurt me i want whats best for my kid and i do love the mother with all my heart. it would be best if my little girl and momma and dada raising her. she doesnt need to be bounced back and forth and later in life hating one of use for something we did to effect her well being.

My goodness. Jealous much? FYI, even if you do get permanent custody and mom gets visitation, she will be allowed to have her boyfriend around unless he is a danger to the child. You will have to accept the fact that either of you may have boyfriends or girlfriends around the child. Get all that sex talk out of your system. People getting a new significant other does not make them neglect children.

So, out of curiosity, did you violate a minor when she was 16 and you were 24???

Oh man, I didn't do the math until SESmama just said that. You've been with a 22 year old for 6 years. How old is the child?