Looking for emancipation help for Virginia

I live with my father and step mother and i hate it there. i take care of my younger siblings, cook, clean, and work almost everyday, except the day that i voulenteer with Family Connections in Loudoun County. I have no family in Virginia excpet for my unlce who lives very near in the same town, Leesburg. My father told me i can move out and he wants to do a legal emmancipation when i leave, but hes very wishy washy and could change his mind at anytime. I turn 17 December 28th, and im on probation until then for stealing, i dont have a legal record because i went through the Restorative Justice program and many people, school officials, and counselours for the county would be willing to testify on my behalf that i am mature and able to make it on my own and financailly support myself. What do i have to do to be able to get the emmancipation to go through even though i have gotten in trouble? I can live with my uncle in order to finsh school, my grades are excellent and im inrolled in honors and AP classes and i make money to support myself. Social Services have been called on my father once, but i said it was nothing, that the bruises where not as bad as they seemed....but i know the situation is unhealthy for me. I cant stay here and i dont want to go in front of a judge and say well, im moving to Alexandria with my boyfriend...because thats just ignorant. Can you help me at all with the proceedings, and if my dad changed his mind, can i still move on without him? Where do i go to get the paperwork? can i find it online? I`m really scared and i dont want to get myself into a situation i cant get myself out of. About how long does this whole process take?

With your parents consent, you can live with your uncle whether or not you are formally emancipated.

...counselours for the county would be willing to testify on my behalf that i am mature and able to make it on my own and financailly support myself....


Actually, that kind of testimony is worthless.

Bringing in your paycheck stubs for the last year would be more beneficial.

As aaron said, you do not need to be emancipated to live with your uncle, but when you do go there, I would have the dad sign a paper giving your uncle permission to get you medical treatment, in case you are hurt while under his care. This should be done, but if your dad changes his mind, and tries to claim you are a runaway, you could at least have the note to show the police, so it does not appear that he is harboring a runaway.

Sorry but the fact that you are on probation is going to make emancipation very difficult, if not impossible. You might be better off getting your dad's permission to live with your uncle.

Seems (to me) that over half of minors on probation want to go this route. Is this some jailhuse solutuion? Its not your life isnt that bad and most teens work around the house. Not likely your request will be granted with you on probation and you will have to prove you can support yourself as well. Living with your Uncle is an option however you failed to say why? My guess is hes easier and you feel you can run and do whatever you want. that isnt likely either. Stay where you are your almost 18. Get a job save some money and move out on your 18th birthday! You seem like every other teen that thinks they know it all until real world hits them smack in the face!:wallbang:

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Seems (to me) that over half of minors on probation want to go this route. Is this some jailhuse solutuion? Its not your life isnt that bad and most teens work around the house. Not likely your request will be granted with you on probation and you will have to prove you can support yourself as well. Living with your Uncle is an option however you failed to say why? My guess is hes easier and you feel you can run and do whatever you want. that isnt likely either. Stay where you are your almost 18. Get a job save some money and move out on your 18th birthday! You seem like every other teen that thinks they know it all until real world hits them smack in the face!:wallbang:

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well...i thank you for your opinion in all honesty....but to call it out as a ''jailhouse solution''...while misspelling it, was highly unintelligent. if you knew your facts, or could properly read....you would realize i didnt have to go to court nor jail, and i dont have anything on my record. The Restorative Justice program is a prevention type thing, and it states that nothing goes on my record so long as i am a law abiding citizen while i am on 'probation'. The whole reason i got in trouble was because i was with people who stole a girls cell phone, i never touched it, but the fact that i knew, got me in trouble. So once again....if i want to go throught with the emancipation...is this a major issue? And the only reason my father wants to do the legal emancipation is because he "doesnt want to have to pay for anything if i get hurt while living out of his home". Actually, the emancipation was his idea. And my uncle happens to be a pastor....running around in the streets is not an option....so i resent the statement you made. It would be better for me to live there because i now live in a two bedroom apt. with 7 people, he has an extra room, and i already pay my father $700 in rent, i would only have to pay him $200. So actually, you should get your information straight before you make ignorant statement. thank you.

Very well posted OP. It is unfortunate, but you will still be guilty by association with a bad crowd, and the judge you are asking for emancipation from, will take that into account. The reasons for emancipation is to be on your own, and not need any parental guidance. I wish I could tell you that it would not matter, but I would be lying. It sounds like your life would go much smoother living at your uncles. I have to say, that your father requesting emancipation, sounds like he has little faith in you getting into some kind of monetary trouble,which he is avoiding having to be responsible for. If this is all you have done, your father is over reacting, and in my opinion, he gave you life, and should be responsible for you. I hope you get to stay at your uncles, it sounds like a much better, stable situation! Good luck to you poster, and I hope you have chosen to stay away from the teens that got you in trouble in the first place. ;)

an update....well, i talked to my father....and basically now he wants me to stay at home with him....its kind of weird...but i only have one more year to deal with him and my stepmother...so i guess im okay with it. I guess he felt slighted when i told him i was going to my uncles, even though it was by his suggestion....and he told me if i leave he will concider me a runaway and put out the Amber alert....but we are going to go to counceling to striaghten things out and atleast help in anyway possible. but i really thank you all for your opinions....it helped a lot. :p

Good luck poster, counseling will help both you and him to make it this last year, and maybe give you both guidance on getting closer before you move out! Keep in touch on how it is going!