Can I Get in Trouble for the Visitations Being on My Terms

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Wyoming.
Ok so I have a 3 year old daughter. Her biological father has only met her once and thats because I showed up at his door step and forced him. I never intended to go after him for CS but after asking him for a box of diapers(only thing I ever asked him for in 3 years) and he told me im a gold diggin b****, I had to get on assistance. And in Wyoming they will only help you if you agree to go after the father for cs. So after a year of him dodging the system he was finally served. They court date came and he didnt show(no suprise). I was willing to do paternity test and all but court declaired him in default therefor he was not ordered a paternity test and lost his chance. Well as soon as he was ordered he decided he was going to start saying he wanted to see her. Thats fine...I never would keep her from him, so I set up a total of 15 visitations within a 6 month period all of them he blew her off...All of this time I was working with his schedule and going out of my way to make these meetings happen. After time and time again of being blown off I decided enough was enough. So from that point on I told him It would be on my terms. And the weekend he wanted to see her I had family plans and said not that weekend but the next would be fine...he flipped. told me when he sees her hes taking her and just a whole load of crap( keep in mind no visitation schedule was ordered). So he stops paying cs an disapears for 6 months. I get a text from him today demanding to see her. My questions are
1) am I going to have it held against me that I do not want to allow him to be alone with her, I will not send her with him for a weekend or any time for that matter because she does not know him. Ive told him after he has proven hes reliable we can talk about weekend visitations but he never comes through.I do not make the terms unreasonable(must be in a public setting, I must be present,and I will not allow his favor of the month to be there. and until a healthy relationship is created I prefer its just him)
2) he wants to sign his rights away and have my husband adopt her ONLY to save himself from paying cs. I believe that should be a choice my daughter makes when shes old enough to decide.
Im just not sure my grounds. I have never told him he could not see her. BUt I cant just stand on hold and change my schedules for a meeting that I know wont happen. And hes good at doing the "poor me" game. Im just not sure what my steps should be. Please can someone tell me what I need to do

1. Ordinarily, the answer would be "yes, you can be held in contempt". But in your situation, and being realistic about it, I doubt the court would hold you in contempt for not sending your 3 year old to be with someone who is essentially a stranger to her.

2. Well, I want an island in the South Pacific all to myself :)

Dad doesn't get to decide this.

Have you thought about going back to court and having the current order modified? To perhaps a supervised, graduated schedule where he and kiddo can get to know each other again?

Then, once he's established a relationship with her again, things can progress.

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Wait a second.

There's NO current visitation order?

Then you don't have to allow ANY visitation other than what YOU think is best.

If Dad wants an enforceable schedule, let him file. Ignore my previous response to your first question.