On the advocacy group? They can come to court - as you were told, courts are open to the public. I doubt that the judge will let them speak.
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On the advocacy group? They can come to court - as you were told, courts are open to the public. I doubt that the judge will let them speak.
It seems that it's going to be plead down ( I don't know if that's the right term) to disorderly conduct. Anyone know the penalties for that? Thanks again!
I was arrested on april 1 for domestic violence. I am the most laid back person, but my boyfriend was hitting me and in self-defense, I clawed his arm, mainly to block his punches, nevertheless, the officers saw the blood on hs arm from my nails trying to block, and I WAS ARRESTED!! I've never been in jail, yet had to spend 12 hrs for defending myself. How much timne did he get? Not a damn minute. I wish you the best of luck. Although I was and will always know my innocence to this altercation, there are circumstances and they must be reported so that prople will be exonerated and that hopefully the sorry scumbags that cause the pain will receive the harshest sentences possible. I have been a very abused 42 yr old mother of 2 and after 19 years, finally realized that I am a very special person, just as you are. Don't let anyone undermine you because men like to make yuu feel like , and I know you are very special, because God don't make dirt! Take care and please stand up for uour self and don;t let anyone intiminidate you!!:)
kmont,
thanks for your post and I'm sorry for what you have endured. I do believe our situations are different we have been married 14 years and never has this occured, again we were fighting over credit cards and one of them hit me in the lip. He called 911 not me I'm not fearful of him, it was 2 adults acting like irresponsible children and not a crime. The police overreacted big time but we'll see what gets done.
Your defensivness is typical of abused women, you realize that credit cards are meant to be in wallets and purses not flying through the air, it could have hit you in the eye instead. If you were out of controll, then you should seek anger management, perhaps the judge will order you both to separate anger management classes!
You have read how many of my posts and can diagnose me? You should open a website! I asked a question and got an answer, it seems odd to me on a legal info website that you don't understand that. The last person told me I was in for a rude awakening, from what exactly. I haven't done anything. Also the judge can't order me to do anything since I wasn't arrested nor should I have been. Just a side note if you did honestly think I was an abused woman I would hope you'd give them more advice then just judging - think about it. Or does it just upset set you that it's getting pleaded down? Hmmmm
So husband's lawyer wants me at pre-trial. I'm not sure why but it's getting nervous for me. At pretrial can they make me get on the stand?
A pretrial is normally just a scheduling proceeding, where no testimony is taken. If your county prosecutor's office has a victim's rights department, they may be able to inform you as to what will happen at any given proceeding.
The advocacy group as much a right to be in the courtroom as anyone else. Unless they are providing some manner of testimony, they will be there to observe. You will not be able to get them excluded from the courtroom without good cause, and simply not believing you are a victim would not be sufficient to get them excluded.
Besides, why should you care if they are there? Just politely thank them for their concern and let them know that it is all a misunderstanding and you do not need their assistance. Keep in mind that they hear this excuse daily, and they likely won't buy it ... the court will also be skeptical for much the same reason.
I'm also confused as to how a credit card flies through the air and cuts your lip!? Was it grasped in his fist at the time??
- Carl
I'm glad you brought up the advocacy group issue. I guess I didn't make it clear they have their own agenda I didn't want them to talk to me. So guess what happens in court today - I have a lady come up to me saying YOU NEED TO COME WITH ME NOW!!! I say I'm sorry you are whom? She says no now! OK so I go and was told I called 911, um no mam I didn't (the tape has been lost?) I told her the police told me I had to write down the voluntary statement or something would happen. I'm very unhappy with the whole system as of right now. The whole thing will go away but only because the police "lost" stuff. My problem is the ramifications on my family involved and the lying going on, I must be very naive. And to the poster who will say my rude awakening is coming - they have lost the 911 tape, the photos and they gave my husband's lawyer a different arrest report they gave me. The second one says I called 911, I did not. I do have the first one that says 911 was called. I do not like the lying to get the results they want since I'm the supposed "victim".