My question involves criminal law for the state of: illinois
hi so my daughter is 17 she tells me she has been talking to a boy, come to find out he is 23 should i try to take legal action upon this
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My question involves criminal law for the state of: illinois
hi so my daughter is 17 she tells me she has been talking to a boy, come to find out he is 23 should i try to take legal action upon this
Talking isn't a crime.
Illinois
The age of consent in Illinois is 17. However, it is illegal for a person 18 or older to commit sexual acts on a person under the age of 18 if he/she has a position of authority or trust over the victim.
(720 ILCS 5/12-15) Sec. 12-15. Criminal sexual abuse. ...(c) The accused commits criminal sexual abuse if he or she commits an act of sexual penetration or sexual conduct with a victim who was at least 13 years of age but under 17 years of age and the accused was less than 5 years older than the victim.
Sec. 12-16. Aggravated Criminal Sexual Abuse. ...(d) The accused commits aggravated criminal sexual abuse if he or she commits an act of sexual penetration or sexual conduct with a victim who was at least 13 years of age but under 17 years of age and the accused was at least 5 years older than the victim.
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Since this is your daughter, and your daughter is not yet 18....and apparently living with you...
You can say "No way" and limit all contact until she turns 18 and moves out. As long as she is living under your roof...your home, your rules.
when she told me she was talking with him she said she is also considering dating him
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im not saying i would allow this because frankly its wrong, but are you saying that its not illegal for her to see him
It's perfectly legal for the two of them to talk to each other all they want, until the cows come home (good heavens, I chatted with men of all ages when I was 17, no one was breaking any laws!) - or until you officially inform him that he may not talk to her until she turns 18, whichever comes first.
However, this is not a sex crime now, nor will it become a sex crime if he continues to talk to her after you tell him to stop. Period.
With all due respect...
She's 17. 18 is considered being a legal adult. At 18, she will be able to purchase cigarettes, enlist in the armed services, operate dangerous machinery at a job....
Talking is just talking, unless it turns to "sexting" or "cyber sex".
If your daughter had good moral standards...I would not worry about it.
It's just crazy that OP thinks she can charge this man for having a conversation with her daughter!
When I was 16 and started working...I worked with people of all ages.
As an adult, I've been on many message boards, including one for a very popular band. Many of us actually have been a friend and mentor to the younger ones. One lady (RIP, my dear friend) actually asked me to talk to her teenage son a few times. My friend passed on, her son knows that I will always be there for him. I've watched this young man grow from an obnoxious 14 year old to boot camp, a stint in Afghanistan....what an amazing young man he has grown into, his mom would be so proud of him.
Until 18 months ago, I took care of my grandmother. I have a friend who is now caring for his ailing mother. You know what he said - I'm probably the only one who understands how he is feeling....
To 123456789k....give your daughter some credit. 17 is sooo close to being an adult. Different teens (just as adults) show different maturity levels. If she has never been in any trouble, has a good head on her shoulders...I would not worry much. I'm attractive, the majority of my friends have always been male. Yet I am now 40 and have only had 3 sexual partners, ok?
May I recommend this? Ask your daughter about this guy (in casual talk). And if the subject about meeting him comes up, "daughter, I have a great idea - how would you like to see (insert movie), and would your friend like to join us? Or an invite to come to the house for dinner so the whole family can meet him. This conveys to your daughter that you respect her as an almost adult, and would like to meet her friend. You get to meet him and see how you feel about him...while treating your daughter with respect....
Even if she decides to engage in sexual activity, I don't know of any IL statute that would make that criminal behavior on the part of the "boy".
She's in her 18th revolution around the sun at "17", and threatening to throw her out or criminalize a situation involving an older man will typically produce the exact opposite of what you intend to come of it.
Telling her who she can/cannot talk to...she will resent you. Threatening to kick her out...she may just say "ok, bye" and leave.