Can My Parents Force Me to Quit My Job

I think the OP is a smart, introspective lady who yes, may behave selfishly at times, but is at an age where it's rather expected. She's supposed to want to spread her wings. She's supposed to chafe under the tight parental control. (not that parents are supposed to give in to her wants, it's just an observation.)
I believe she has more on her plate than most her age, and is caring even under less than ideal conditions.
I feel bad she was abused, and not allowed to participate in after school activities that someone who is smart and dedicated can thrive in. I'm surprised that her mother says that she can get a "better looking" guy than that. That's something a teenage girl would say, not a loving, caring mom.
I trust that if she does have someone "just like her" someday, that she will be a better parent than she's been taught to be.
But anyway, OP, you don't have much time left that you "have to" stay at home. Just make the best of it. When you do leave, make the best of all the opportunities you're given.

And I see someone who is going out of her way to hurt people just because she can.

The way i see it, they're hurting me, if they truly care, then why hurt me?
Besides what i'm doing doesn't actually hurt them, i know for a fact it doesn't, my parents are just egotisitical.

I'll explain how they are, my older brother is 22 and is getting married next week, my mom and dad think they can legally stop it, and they said there going to try because they don't like the girl he's marrying. this right here shows that my parents have issues, control issues that need to stop. i'm all fine and dandy with some control, but not every aspect of my life. every heartbeat and step i take is honestly my own, sure it's because of them i have one. but still.

and yeah when my mom said that i was a bit puzzled, looks shouldn't matter in a relationship lol


I honestly don't even believe my parents are caring. I'll sit at the dinner table with them, and they wont even talk to me, it's like this for everyone in my family. I'll ask for help with my studies, and they just tell me to do it myself, i dont need extra help, the only time they actually say something is when my boyfriend is involved or my job. And honestly, this is the first time they said something about a boyfriend i had, only because he's 20. there just afraid that all he wants is sex, which is something every parent knows is more of what a 16-17year old high school boy will want. but for some reason my parent think all the guys at my high school are angels, they don't believe that 14year olds have sex, i talked to them about this girl whos 15 who got a out of school suspension for having sex in the bathroom, and they told me not to make up stories and lie to them -__-. and then they grounded me because they said i was lieing.

The guy i have now, he completely respects my parents when they disrespect him at every turn, my parents made rumors about him, told people in our town that he likes 14year olds, that hes a pedo.

thats why when they told me i shouldn't see him, he stopped seeing me. and i told him if we couldnt text that he would oblige and just wait.
And it's not like he's waiting for sex from me, he goes to college, he's friends with many beautiful girls, girls that have tried to do stuff with him, but he's able to say no.

He doesn't even defend himself, in his words he said "let them say what they want, aslong as i know its not true, i don't care, it hurts that they say that, but if i tried to talk it out with them, what they would do to you would hurt alot more"

I believe a parent has the right to tell a child what to do, but a parent doesn't have a right to force a minor to believe in something i dont believe, or straight-up tell me things that are unreasonable. They don't have a right to plan my whole future out for me, and force me to follow that path if it's a path that will make me unhappy. I will follow a path that makes me happy, because if i don't, well, whats the point of living?

And of course, the only answer to people "disrespecting" you is to disrespect them right back. I see.

Okay, I said I was done here before. I'm out.

Not quitting my job or leaving my boyfriend just because they want me to isn't disrespecting.

anyway, this is all finished now, im all set. thanks everyone.

BREAK THE CHAIN... you are only as strong as your weakest link. Do NOT be like them.
You are missing the whole point. Talk to your employer about a leave of absence until you are 18 (two months). Stay away/out of contact of your boyfriend until you are 18. If you two are TRULY in love, per se, you can do this without a hitch. Husbands/wives deployed go for months and months without contact. Be respectful to the rules that your parents have in place since you are under their roof and you ARE being disrespectful whether you think you are or not...... wait until you are 18 and then do as you choose, and move out.

i talked to my employer and he said that i wouldn't get a leave of absence, and my parents had signed that i would be able to work for the next 6months without a hitch, i looked at my application and stuff where they signed, and it does show, can i work reliably for the next 6months and they did sign it, as for the boyfriend thing, they didn't say i can't text him, just cant hang out with him, and we comply with it.

Sorry, but that's a complete crock.

It doesn't matter what your parents signed - they are ABSOLUTELY within their rights to withdraw consent at any time, for any reason.

Well, the good thing is they don't know this lol. so i can keep working, plus i found out from my employer that my mom legally can't take my money from me, so i'm making a bank account that my parents wont have access to and were changing it to direct deposit.

All I can say is Good Luck. You fall into that crack in society where no matter what you do, you are wrong. Remember, this is a speed bump, the sign says "Life Ahead"!!!