Can My Parents Force Me to Quit My Job

I know you think you have to have everything right now, but seriously. Things will go far more smoothly if you wait til you're 18. It will not be that bad to wait til you're 18. You only have less than a year to be under your parents authority and then you can live your life the way you want to live it. Just try to get through the next year, then do what you want after that.

Also, if you are going to be 18 by the time you go to college, then obviously, no they cannot force you to go to college. Until then, just keep saying you're "thinking about it." And then you can decide if you want to go on your own after you're 18.

This is the time to lay low and try to live as peacefully as possible until you get the opportunity to do what you want (which is in less than a year).

And I just saw you said earlier that you'll be 18 in less than two months. That is not very long to wait at all. In fact, I don't know why you're complaining. Just wait two months. My goodness.

Well the reason i'm fighting so much is because i don't want to lose my job, then in 2months go look for another one, i love my job, i make 11$ an hour, i won't be able to find another one like this that pays so much when its my first job.

I mean you have to admit, making someone whos 17, 18 in less than two months, quit there job is stupid. because when i turn 18, i'm going to go dorm at my local college, i need a way to make money while im there >_<


as for the boyfriend issue, i talked to my mom today, she's under the impression that she can't do anything so she just told me "i hope one day you'll break up with him, he doesn't suit you, you could have way better looking guys" so i'm leaving that at that, i'm staying with him regardless.

Well, due to the fact that you're 17, and cannot work if you parents don't allow you to, you may want to reevaluate your plans. There is not just one path in life. Fashion your plans to fit your circumstances.

Well my parents gave up today on trying to make me quit, they called the cops when i went to work and the cops told them there is nothing they can do, although this is not true, my parents believe what cops say. so basically there under the impression now that they can't do anything about me working, so im going to leave it like that lol.

my grandma was there when the cops came and my parents told them to go pick me up from my job, and the cops told them that they cannot do this, basically just that made my parents give up.



My parents literally gave up on everything today because i told them i'm leaving when i'm 18 regardless of whether im with my boyfriend or not. (they thought the only reason i was leaving was because of him)
Like my dad came and talked to me and he said i've broken his heart or whatever but he's going to let me do what i want and that he can't control me anymore lol


so i'm all set now. they still wont let me physically see my boyfriend, but in 2months that wont matter.



Also, im going to see if there's someway to get my dad back in counseling, he has BPD but he doesnt do anything for it, so hey if anything, itll be a win win situation, my dad will get the counseling he needs, and i can finally have a life lol

You know, if you are any kind of human being at all, there is going to come a day when you are going to look back at this thread and say, "What a self-centered, selfish brat I was at 17. How did my parents stand me? No wonder I have no relationship with them today - I wish I'd listened to what others told me".

I can see what you mean cbg, but after my dad abused me, i never really have wanted a relationship with him.

My view on it is, take a piece of paper and crumple it up, stomp on it, and then unravel it, try the hardest you can to flatten that piece of paper out, but no matter how hard you try, the wrinkles are still left in it, and that is how i have felt.

I feel awkward in that, i care about my parents well being, but i personally don't care about there feelings anymore.

I mean i could go ahead, leave my boyfriend, quit my job, and go to a college i don't want for a degree i don't want, but that only makes my parents happy, and me miserable.

I wanted a way to make us both happy, and its not like i tried to be selfish, i sat my parents down and i tried to talk to them very calmly, i was like well, our local college has a degree for early childhood education, and i could start taking classes my senior year, and have a couple credits by the time i graduate and they just clearly said "youre going to be a nurse or a doctor and thats final"

I want everyone to know, my mother has no part in this, my mom told me today that she doesn't dislike my boyfriend, and she doesn't dislike my ideas, it's that my dad makes the decisions, and she won't go against him because they almost got divorced last year(i knew nothhing about divorce or this stuff), so my mom said she basically listens to everything he says and stuff. She even agreed that i should try to get my dad counseling, but i cant force him and neither can she.


This would all be different if my parents provided for me, i have to buy my own food, pay part of the house bills (basically rent without them saying its rent), and i pay for all the bills that i have.
If my parents were the ones paying for everything, then i would agree to anything they would have said, well besides making me take a degree i don't want.

The only reason i myself fought back is because i pull my own weight around here, and i don't really have to, i'm still 17, i could quit my job and they are still under the legal obligation to financially support me until 18. But the thing is, they don't have enough to financially support me, the only thing they do is give me a roof over my head, something that anyone else in my family was willing to do.

Also i am sorry for anyone i came off to as well an asshole, but remember, my whole family agrees with me besides my parents? i mean there has to be some validity when my grandpa, my grandma and everyone wont even really talk to my parents, my parents only talk to my grandma, i see every other kid that have christmas with there family, they have thanksgiving with there family, my thanksgiving is the same old dinner just with my grandma, my other part of the family, they have a huge celebration with the whole family getting together just 7miles down the street, but my parents don't ever go, and i've never been allowed to go, i've never even been allowed to meet the rest of my family, i had to resort to talking to them on fb.


The way i see it, sure i may be a little self centered

But i offered to keep supporting my parents even when i'm in college, stuff like that.
But my parents are self centered with then wont consider my feelings, or what they tell me to do, what effects it will have. They completely know that it would make me unhappy, but they don't consider the effects of that, they only concentrate on what they want, the dreams that they wanted to do but never got to do. I'm sorry but i have different dreams, they'll learn to respect that.
Just because i'm 17, sure i'm not an adult, and sure when i turn 18 i'm an adult, but maturity wise, the difference between a 17 and 18 year old is non existent.

But your parents are not the ones who came here asking for advice. You are.

Yes, that is true.

I came to see what the law said about stuff like this, and obviously, it doesn't work into my favor. But, aslong as my parents don't know the actual laws and find out about them for the next two months, well. i guess it doesn't matter then does it?

They don't research like i do, all they do is play farm-ville all day. and then expect me to think that there words are the words of god, of-course in the laws eyes, there words are words from god, but it's not totally true. Like what you guys tell me is that i have to just listen, and that's it, but what i've been told from police officers, lawyers i've talked to and the local family court, is that this is not the case, so i became confused on the laws, so i decided to ask here.

Sure what you guys say is the law, and yeah, that's true, but that doesn't mean its practiced that way.

If i ran away at the age of 17, my parents should be able to return me home correct? well the cops don't return me home anymore, and legally me running away isn't a criminal matter, which is why they won't.
You should be able to file a pins on a 17year old regardless of how close she is to 18 right? well the judge didn't let her file one.

Cops and PINS are the only resource to have me sent home when i ranaway, without those there is no legal way to return me. and ofcourse the law has these in place for me to be returned.

Well why wasn't i returned? i highly doubt i just lucked out or something.

I hope you have a kid just like yourself.

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Quoting renji1337

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but maturity wise, the difference between a 17 and 18 year old is non existent.

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You are right. You clearly have a VERY long way to go to maturity.

Just because one set of cops has said they will not return you home, does not mean that your parents themselves cannot come after you. Or that another set of cops will not.

I'm not wasting any more time on an immature brat who thinks she has all the answers.