Can My Parents Force Me to Quit My Job

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renji1337;661274]They can't file for one unless he is a credible threat,

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as I said, I'll not bother hunting up the laws but you are wrong.

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they tried to file one before and they weren't able to because he doesn't physical contact with me

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what does physical contact have to do with anything?

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, and he doesn't infringe on my parents control over me

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so?

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, and that the legal age of consent is 17.

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that has absolutely nothing to do with their right of parental control over you.

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and they also didn't keep trying to file one because my parents can't afford a lawyer

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they don't need a lawyer. It's a piece of cake to file this by yourself.
one,

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and they know that he would get one

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so what? If he wants to spend the money, that doesn't mean your parents have to spend money on a lawyer.

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(he's always told me to just wait it out and listen to them)

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that isn't what you are saying here.

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and i don't believe i have all the answers, i'm just saying i'm still going to go to work anyway, if they make me quit, so be it. doesn't mean i just give up though.

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I think it's time for you to grow up.

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Me and him can easily just not text each other

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and they can make sure of that by taking your phone away and cancelling your phone contract.

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Quoting jk

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as I said, I'll not bother hunting up the laws but you are wrong.


what does physical contact have to do with anything?

so?

that has absolutely nothing to do with their right of parental control over you.

they don't need a lawyer. It's a piece of cake to file this by yourself.
one,
so what? If he wants to spend the money, that doesn't mean your parents have to spend money on a lawyer.

that isn't what you are saying here.

I think it's time for you to grow up.

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Don't you think i'm grown up in a way that i got a job to help support my family? This is moreso a thing of them noticing that i'm growing up and them knowing that in two months they lose all control over me.

Are you telling me that if i dropped all contact with my boyfriend, and didn't even talk to him that they could still place a restraining order on him? That would be the same as him placing a restraining order on someone he doesnt even know for a false reason isn't it?


Also, they wont cancel my phone contract because they would be hit with the 560$ bill, and me and my boyfriend only text when i'm in school on lunch or study hall, as of right now my parents don't even think i talk to him. I just told them i don't need to talk to someone to date someone. If i have to, i will drop all contact with him but still be dating. it's only two months anyway.

Also i hunted up the laws for NYS and it says that for a restraining order, there needs to be a credible threat.

No. I don't think you're "grown up" for having a job.

Yes, it IS possible for them to obtain a restraining order. If they say "you will NOT contact my minor child", and he keeps up contact, that's all they need in your state.

Now if there's no contact, it's not likely to wash.
But until you reach the ripe old age of 18, their word is golden.

Well, dogmatique, if they were to somehow try to attempt a RO within the next two months (which i know they wont try again), if me and him stopped all contact, but still kept dating, would it be passed?

They've never told him that "YOU can not contact my child" and i know that if they did he would agree to it. He wouldn't dump me, but he would agree to it.


And i mean dating is something we agree on, it doesn't have to be out in the open, it can be in our heads even if we don't talk, we already said that if something happens we just wont talk for the two months and wait it out, we've done this in the past with other issues on his side.


Also, i have a question on emancipation, i realize i probably wouldn't get it, but since i make 1100$ a month, is there a chance i could? i only ask because my boyfriend emancipated himself at 17 through a court, and his parents didn't give him permission, but since he could pay all of his own bills and he had a credible place to stay with a relative the judge agreed

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renji1337;661281]Don't you think i'm grown up in a way that i got a job to help support my family?

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it takes more than one act to show you are grown up. Besides, you said your parents made you get a job and help out. Sure doesn't sound like you did it because it was the mature thing to do.

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This is moreso a thing of them noticing that i'm growing up and them knowing that in two months they lose all control over me.

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and from how you speak, I bet they will be glad to be rid of you.

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Are you telling me that if i dropped all contact with my boyfriend, and didn't even talk to him that they could still place a restraining order on him?

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I guess that is something you will have to wait to find out.

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That would be the same as him placing a restraining order on someone he doesnt even know for a false reason isn't it?

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why is that? You have described yourself as incorrigible. You continue to state how you intend on having contact

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Also, they wont cancel my phone contract because they would be hit with the 560$ bill,

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Unless they signed for it, no, they wouldn't.

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and me and my boyfriend only text when i'm in school on lunch or study hall, as of right now my parents don't even think i talk to him

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.and if they look at your phone? or your phone bill?

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I just told them i don't need to talk to someone to date someone. If i have to, i will drop all contact with him but still be dating. it's only two months anyway

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.You do whatever you think you need to do.

JK if they look at my phone or phone bill they won't see his real number, he texts me off different numbers, never his real number because i told him it wasnt a good idea.

And no they won't be glad to get rid of me, they told me i have to legally stay there until i'm 21, and that if i moveout when im 18 they'll force me back, in which you guys told me they cant do that.


Now is there anything i can do about the abuse issue? i'd be happier to live in a foster home if i could still go to my school. or be relocated to a relative. i have many relatives who want to.

I also have many family members who will be on my side, my grandma and my cousins already told me i should tell someone about the abuse.

and for a little bit of info about the abuse, last week i folded my dads clothes wrong and he punched me in the face and said "guess youll fold them right now" it's things like that.

And like, they way the me and bf's relationship is setup is if they tried to file another RO, there would be no evidence that he talks to me, or even acknowledges i exist. infact my boyfriend wants to drop all contact UNTIL im 18, but i told him that unless my parents tell him he cant talk to me, to not do that.


Also yes the cosigned my phone plan, so they would get hit with the bell, that's why they don't cancel it. They can barely afford to buy food as it is.

if you are abused, you call child protective services or the police.

Can i still call for previous abuse? or does the abuse have to be like happening at the moment, the bruise went away, and i know you guys may think i'm not grown up. but even though i hate my parents, i still want to help them with there financial issues, and place my dad into therapy or something.

I'm not some random 17year old daughter that wants to run away with my boyfriend or anything like the norm.
I want to help support my parents. I want to go to college and be successful, just i want to be a teacher, my parents want me to be a doctor
Idk it's hard to explain, i've never been any bit rebellious till now. I listened to every word my parents said until 3months ago when the abuse started again.


Also, i ask if i can still call because my little brother called once and he couldn't prove it to them, infact he got placed on pins and hes only 15, they won't place me on PINS because i turn 18 in two months.

And i know you told me to grow up, but i think a part of every teenager growing up is to fight back a little. In the laws eyes what my parent's say is equivalent to GOD, but i don't even believe in god anyways, so haha. I mean i'm ready to grow up, i'm ready for responsibilities, infact i want them, it's boring to go to school everyday, and come home and sit in my bedroom 24/7. that's all my parents let me do. it's all i've done for the past 2years.

Also, i just realized something, why are we even talking about RO's? i turn 18 in 1month 14 days, i don't even think an RO would be heard by then.


I'm going to go to bed though, i'll report back in the morning what happens when i still go to work.

Is there a "thingy" to add that shows a person throwing their hands up in the air?

Please PLEASE go talk to your school counselor. Schedule at LEAST an hour to sit with them and tell them what you are trying to tell everyone here. Because it sounds like you are not actually "asking" for help here on this forum, you are arguing and threatening of things you will continue to do... which we have no control over. When the seniors give you advice and you choose NOT to follow the advice, it should stop right there and quit writing posts. You seem to need help and will not call CPS. First step, see your counselor. Second step, call CPS. Third step, forget about your boyfriend, ask your boss if you can have a "leave of absence" for two months until you turn 18. Fourth step.... reread your posts with an open mind and you might find you are not as mature as you think you are. Please get some help.

I'm not going to forget about my boyfriend -_-why should i do that? I've been with him for quite a long time, and i do love him.


BTW, i went to work today, and my parents called the cops but my grandma told me that the cops said there's nothing they can do about it(the cops came to my house basically, and went i got home from work my mom just looked at me and said i hope your happy, you finally got what you wanted", so i think im all set, i am going to talk to my counselor though