Can My Parents Force Me to Quit My Job

My question involves juvenile law in the State of: New york.


I'm using my boyfriends account but, i am the age of 17, my parents are very controlling, and verbally abusive, they have also been physically abusive to when there has been a bruise before. And recently they tried signing me up to go to a college i didn't want to go to for a degree i dont want (i have to sign and give consent for this right?) like can they force me to go to a college i dont want for a degree i dont want? they weren't going to pay the college eather, they wanted me to just get a big loan and i said no.

Well this sparked a huge argument because they dislike my boyfriend, because he just turned 20, they had no issue with him until they found out he turned 20, they knew he was 19 but they thought he had just turned 19, and he used to work at my place of employment, they do not allow me to see him at all, but they won't tell him or me that i'm not allowed to talk to him, they just expect me to dump him but i've been with him for 3 years, it's just i have a weird relationship with my parents, i don't tell them anything so they didn't know for the first 2 years. The closer i edge to 18, the more my parents try to get me to dump him, he tries to respect them, he doesn't come near me at all, he said until i'm 18 or until he can see me without them blowing up on him that he would see me, for now we just text, call, and webcam, my parents know i'm still dating him but they said they would like me to not date him, but i told them that if they forced me i would just wait until im 18 and date him again.

But the issue at hand is they think he's visiting me at my job, and i really do love him to death, when they found out we worked together they were going to force me to quit, but instead he quit himself, and he has bills, he's in college and everything but he still quit for me and he didn't even argue, but even though he's not visiting me and my job even told them that, can they legally force me to quit my job? like my mom said if i go to work tomorrow she'll call the cops and make them bring me home, i called the police station and they said that they wouldn't bring me home but idk :/. My mom also takes all the money i make, and she signs all my paychecks and cashes them in for herself(which isnt this illegal?) I've only been at this job for 1month and i've grown to love it, and i'm in my senior year in highschool, but i'm still getting straight a's.

I don't care about my relationship with my parents, that ended a long time ago when they hit me. All i really want to know is, if i legally walk out the door and go to my job and then return home, can they stop me? And this probably sounds stupid, but it is a very big issue, everyone in my town knows about it, at school everyone calls my parents the crazy parents, i wanted to do extra curricular activities and stuff, and i was doing cheerleading, and they made me quit, and then they wouldn't even let me do this college type thing that would look good for college because it ment i would have to go to the college my boyfriend goes too, but he only goes monday-friday and i would go on saturday and sunday.

I'm on the fence. i don't really know what to do. My grandma told me today that her daughter which is my mom is now a dissapointment to her.


(fyi for anyones information on the BF issue) my parents think i should date someone my age, but everyone at my school, there 16-17, all they want is sex, the guy i'm with hasn't even kissed me yet because he's still too nervous) and the age of consent for nys is 17, so 17 and 20 is legal.


But, i heard from someone that your parents can't use intimidation tactics on there children? like they tell me they'll take away my phone that i pay for, or that my dad's gonna go shoot my boyfriend(he lives right down the street) and he's even said he'll beat me until i listen and that i have to do whatever they say until im 21. Also, cps has been called on my house multiple times, my younger brother has more guts then me and runs away every time he's been hit, and then my parents force him to come back, i want to just somehow put a end to this cycle, not just for me, but for my younger brother too. We've had police look at our bruises and just tell us to tough it out. I've talked to my guidance counselor at my school, and she said that she would back me up and stuff, but i dont know if thats any help..

Yes, they can force you to quit your job.

Yes, they can stop you from leaving home.

Can i ask how? because i'm going to walk out the door tomorrow, and go to my workplace. (reguardless of what anyone says, i will still do this because they can't file a PINS on me, they tried last month and the people wouldn't allow it because i would be 18 by the time it would be granted)

I called a lawyer for free advice and he told me that technically, they can not bring me to work, but since i can walk there, nothing is stopping me unless they physically stop me.
He also told me if my parents know where i am, i am not a runaway, i am a stay-away and that it works differently?


If all else fails, i'm going to wait until my parents physically abuse me again and i'm going to record it on tape and go to the police station.

They can ground you until the day you reach the age of majority. The law allows them to do this.

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Can i ask how? because i'm going to walk out the door tomorrow, and go to my workplace. (reguardless of what anyone says, i will still do this because they can't file a PINS on me, they tried last month and the people wouldn't allow it because i would be 18 by the time it would be granted)

I called a lawyer for free advice and he told me that technically, they can not bring me to work, but since i can walk there, nothing is stopping me unless they physically stop me.

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Your parents can stop you from leaving the home. They can stop you from going to work. In addition, they could call your employer and tell them their minor child does not have permission from the parents to work. Want to guess what the boss would do then?

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like they tell me they'll take away my phone that i pay for,

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Yes, they can take your phone, even if you paid for it.

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nd the age of consent for nys is 17, so 17 and 20 is legal.

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haven't checked the age but regardless, it still isn't smart.

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can they legally force me to quit my job?

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yes

Well it looks like i'm still just gonna go. The police wont return me home now anyway, what used to happen when i ranaway is the police would return me home within 2-3 days but once i told them my parents physically abuse me they stopped bringing me home. I'm at the point where if my mom doesnt let me work my job i'm going to just fight like she does and let my grades slip down to c's. And i know for a fact she can't do anything about my grades.

my parents signed a form that i have permission before, does that have any validation towards anything.

and i don't see why 17 and 20 isn't smart, people used to get married at the age of 13, my mom is 40 and my dad is 56, i don't care about what everyone else in the world normally does, i only care about what makes me or the people i care about happy. We don't have sex, and we don't even kiss. I don't see how it isn't smart, also are arranged marriages still legal? because my mom talked about that last night.

Also, they wont take my phone for the main reason that since i'm a minor, if my contract breaks they would be billed 560$, that's the only reason they haven't taken it.

they can file for a restraining order against your boyfriend. There are likely crimes he can be charged with. I'll not bother to look any up since you believe you have all the answers.

They can't file for one unless he is a credible threat, they tried to file one before and they weren't able to because he doesn't physical contact with me, and he doesn't infringe on my parents control over me, and that the legal age of consent is 17. and they also didn't keep trying to file one because my parents can't afford a lawyer and they know that he would get one, (he's always told me to just wait it out and listen to them) and i don't believe i have all the answers, i'm just saying i'm still going to go to work anyway, if they make me quit, so be it. doesn't mean i just give up though.

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Well it looks like i'm still just gonna go. The police wont return me home now anyway, what used to happen when i ranaway is the police would return me home within 2-3 days but once i told them my parents physically abuse me they stopped bringing me home. I'm at the point where if my mom doesnt let me work my job i'm going to just fight like she does and let my grades slip down to c's. And i know for a fact she can't do anything about my grades.

my parents signed a form that i have permission before, does that have any validation towards anything.

and i don't see why 17 and 20 isn't smart, people used to get married at the age of 13, my mom is 40 and my dad is 56, i don't care about what everyone else in the world normally does, i only care about what makes me or the people i care about happy. We don't have sex, and we don't even kiss. I don't see how it isn't smart, also are arranged marriages still legal? because my mom talked about that last night.

Also, they wont take my phone for the main reason that since i'm a minor, if my contract breaks they would be billed 560$, that's the only reason they haven't taken it.

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Well, that confirms that you're nowhere near mature enough to be living outside of the home.

I don't want to move out or live outside the home, i want to help my parents out, that's the reason i got this job, i pay half the house payments currently with it.


The sad part is, my dad doesn't work and my moms disabled, but she doesnt collect disability(idk why), my dad gets unemployment, and they used to rely on my older brothers paycheck to pay the house stuff, he decided that he had enough of my parents and he moved out, so my parents forced me to get a job to help pay, but if they take it away, were just gonna be homeless in the end.


also, according to my boyfriends lawyer, the reason they couldn't file for one besides that is that they have no credible way of proving i'm dating him other then the fact i say i am. Me and him can easily just not text each other, and not talk at all, yet still be dating. and if he doesn't talk or text me at all, they can't slap a restraining order on him, because he wouldn't even be having anything to do with me.



Also i'll admit, yeah i'm nowhere near mature enough to live outside my home yet, i do know that when i turn 18 i am going to go dorm regardless of what my parents say, but they are nowhere near mature either. My parent's are literally the dumbest, there's no possible way they could be looking into my best interests when they wouldn't even let me do extracurricular activities that would look good for college (and this was before i was even dating my boyfriend)

And i apologize to anyone that i come of cocky too, i'm just fed up with it and stuff.

If they can't file a PINS on me and the police wont return me home.

Is there anything else they can do? I know they could send me to a juvenile detention center, i mean i might as well know the consequences of what im doing but seeing as i turn 18 in two months, that would be pointless, and isn't there anything i can do about my parents threatening me and my little brother? I mean, i love my parents to death, but at the same time i already disowned them in my heart, and it's something that won't come back. at-least not for a long time.