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  • 10-06-2012, 06:25 PM
    swilson3828
    Contact After Restraining Order Expires
    My question involves restraining orders in the State of: North Carolina
    Thank you in advance for your responses.

    I was served with a TRO in Sept of last year. I agreed to accept the restraining order at the advice of my attorney due to the fact that my attorney told me eventhough the restraining order was bogus and entered under false statement by her, the judge would probably go ahead and grant it anyway just to be safe. I had no intentions of seeing her again, so in order to minimize the increasing attorney fees for the continuances thathad already occurred four times I just took the order. Now the order is a month from expiring. I have not seen or talked to the complaintant for fourteen months, nor do I have a desire to. I DO, however, have a desire to write her parents a letter and explain to them what really happened, and that the story they heard from their daughter was NOT what happened. I simply want those who know of the restraining order and her part in what happened because she has made me look like someone I'm not, and me and my son did have a very good relationship with her parents.

    I'm just wanting to know the legality of writing a letter to her parents explaining MY side of the story if done after the expiration of the order. This is what I need to do for closure.
  • 10-06-2012, 10:44 PM
    cdwjava
    Re: Contact After Restraining Order Expires
    Writing them a letter after the order expires might provide sufficient cause for them to obtain another one.

    My recommendation: Don't. Writing them a letter is not going to give you "closure." It might offer you some relief through catharsis, but closure (whatever that means to you) might not come until or unless they actually speak to you and say they understand. Don't count on that.
  • 10-07-2012, 11:39 AM
    drthyrd
    Re: Contact After Restraining Order Expires
    Quote:

    Quoting swilson3828
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    My question involves restraining orders in the State of: North Carolina
    I'm just wanting to know the legality of writing a letter to her parents explaining MY side of the story if done after the expiration of the order. This is what I need to do for closure.

    Writing is cathartic. I highly recommend the writing of the letter. It is the mailing/delivery of the letter where self restraint is required. Don't mail anything or deliver anything to her parents, friends, coworkers, boss, etc. If you and your son have a good relationship with her parents in spite of the restraining order then no explanation is needed from you. They accept you and whatever did or didn't happen. If you haven't maintained that relationship in an ongoing format during the period when the order was in affect then writing her parents now is a dig at her and a pretty good sign you have a vendetta.
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