Taking a Child on a Trip With Another Man

My question involves a marriage in the state of:florida,,,,,,,been seperated for about 3 months....if wife wanted to take minor child on an overnight trip with another man....( whom she insists in just a friend )
do I the father of the child have any right to say no....the child cannot go ?.....maybe I am just old fashioned..but in my opinion it is very immoral to take a child on an overnight trip with another man....friend or not...

is there any custody or visitation orders in place?

yes...trip would be on her weekend....

unless the parenting order restricts the other parent from some particular activity or the situation with another person, then no, you have no right to stop her.

trying not to make this whole thing a war...........but my son spends way too much time with his moms "friend"

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Quoting gatorbear

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trying not to make this whole thing a war...........but my son spends way too much time with his moms "friend"

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I don't know if that is a subtle intent to suggest something wholly improper is taking place or it is simply what it says. If you believe the child's safety is at issue, then you can address that through the courts. You need to be able to substantiate any accusation you make though. I don't know how old the child is but maintaining a good relationship with your child so they are open and honest with you about anything that might happen is paramount. Alienating the child due to jealousy or an overreaction is a good way to injure that relationship.

The immoral thing from your first post;

nothing you can really do about that. Mom is entitled to her moral standards and you are entitled to yours. As long as hers do not go so low as to allow something improper to happen to the child, that is simply something you will have to learn to deal with.

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trying not to make this whole thing a war...........but my son spends way too much time with his moms "friend"

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Not your decision.

If it's that big of a deal to you, request that a "no paramour" clause be added to the current orders. Bear in mind that it will only last until the divorce is finalized and it would also apply to you.

Not to mention that unless OP's judge is particularly conservative and OP has some darn good proof, it likely won't matter much if mom continues to have "friends" overnight, even if he does get an order with a "no paramour" clause (which can be included in the final orders if a judge is so inclined).

Courts don't dictate and enforce morality well. Probably best that way, honestly, especially if a judge decided he had his own morals different than mine that he wanted to enforce upon me.

OP is going to have to come to grips with kids being exposed to mom's morals or his interpretation of her looseness thereof. Being divorced means that neither parent can control what goes on in the other parent's house/life, nor what they do with the children on their time, for the most part. Court orders are two-edged swords. Sometimes it sucks, but it truly is the way that it should be.

Given they are still married, this certainly raises the question of adultery on the mother's part.

It may be relevant and have some bearing if there are custody issues in dispute regarding the child's best interests.

It won't have any bearing in Florida (perhaps unfortunately) unless they do get an extremely conservative Jeb Bush-like judge.

Though I think it's craptacular parenting to expose the child/ren to a new paramour before the ink has dried. Y'know?