My Son Wants Emancipation from Us

Hi, my son who is 15 yrs old has been working, since july, and because I live an hr and 30 mins from where he works, he has been staying with one of his friends place, he works 6 days a week and 10 to 11 hrs a day, and has earned his money and other than taking him food to eat, now all of the sudden he thinks he needs to be emancipated from us, his father lives in a different state, and we have been alone since 08, and his father onlu pays less than 200 a month, so I told him he needed to find a job, cause I wasnt working very many hrs, so he did and he loves it, but when he told me he wanted this, I immediatly freaked and thought" he wants to divorce his parents" and cried all nite, he explained to me that he just wants to be able to make his own money and that he is on his own anyways, but I still feel like im loosing him.. I have not got him in school cause, we were planning to move to mexico, and I wanted him to work more before we went, Im originnally from mexico, so I thought it would give him an opportunity to learn the language more efficiently, I am at a loss of what to do.. please give me so advise..

Call children services on yourself and let them fix the poor mess the child is in, with you as a parent.

There is a reason we ask for your state. Emancipation laws are state-specific, so without knowing where you are, no one can give you any specifics.

However, there are only two states that will even consider emancipating a 15 year old, so the odds are that it won't work anyway.

Come back and tell us your state, and then we can give you more detail.

we are in wy

A judge is not going to approve a 15 yr old who belongs in school to violate state labor laws to support themselves. I assume you are illegal. In cases like this, they generally appoint a guardian or support an adoption, if the child is a legal US citizen. If you and the child are illegal, the child will be deported, with you, unless you are just leaving. If you are both legal, they will appoint a guardian or adopt the child. Raising this child properly is obviously beyond your capability and it is in the childs best interest to get childrens services involved., rather than abandon your child.

In WY, he cannot be emancipated before he is 17, and even then he has to have your permission. Read the sticky elsewhere on this site.

So he cant take us to court and get emancipated, he has to have a reason to do it.. I am going to tell him, that he either can go with his dad and live or he needs to come with me.. right now im still so hurt, I am not sure what to do..

No, he cannot take you to court and get emancipated. He has to be a minimum of age 17 before a court will even consider it, and then he has to have your permission, and then he has to be able to prove that he is capable of paying ALL his own support. Emancipation does not mean what most kids think it means.

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So he cant take us to court and get emancipated, he has to have a reason to do it.. I am going to tell him, that he either can go with his dad and live or he needs to come with me.. right now im still so hurt, I am not sure what to do..

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Mom - seriously, stop letting him be the parent! YOU are the parent here. Start parenting this ungrateful little so-and-so!
Out of interest, is Dad okay with you relocating to Mexico?

I don't see ungrateful, I see a 15 year old that did exactly what he was told to do. Mom said get a job, he got a job. Who allows a 15 year old to work 10 or 11 hours a day and NOT go to school? He needed to be in school until the MINUTE he left the country.

While he can't be emancipated, this child needs to be in the custody of child protective services. 1. I can't think of many states that will allow a 15 year old to work that many hours a day and 2. Mom is CONDONING it and has basically absolved herself of the responsibility of raising her child. Sounds to me like the child has more sense than mom does.

Okay, you're right. I was far too hasty.

Out of interest, isn't that breaking labor laws?

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Okay, you're right. I was far too hasty.

Out of interest, isn't that breaking labor laws?

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Yes, that coupled with moms obvious lack of care in the childs well being, is why I told her to call childrens services. She doesn't grasp the basics of proper childcare.

he was told to get a job, cause he wanted all these electronics and things to live like a spoiled brat that has no sense of money, I was working at 15 yrs old and it tought me to respect money and my parents, just cause he has been working since july doesnt give him the right to come out and tell me that he wants to be on his own, he is not paying rent and I supply the phone and if he needs food I give it to him, but he is making money now, but doesnt give him the right to tell me, he no longer needs me and he wants me out of the pic. when things got tough and I was going thru the divorce, I stuck with him, his dad only picked his things up and took off, I have been with him thru his stupidness of the mariguana problem, from beginning to end, and now he wants me out.. and the reason he is not in school is because, I wanted to give him a little break cause he does struggle with school and rather than getting him in and starting the new friend thing and new teachers, for a teenager its harder to let go once they get to know their friends, so I thought it would be better just to start him in a new school.. sometimes, when children appreciate what you do, then you are apt to give them a little more freedom, I have 3 other children and they never disrepected me like he has, and it does hurt and I am not a perfect mom.. I do have my faults, that is why I chose to come here to hear everyones, oppinions.. thanks you.. good and bad, bring it on..

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this is his very first job , and I have been proud of him to take on this job, he is very good at it and keeps him off the streets, no one has died of hard work..

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he was told to get a job, cause he wanted all these electronics and things to live like a spoiled brat that has no sense of money, I was working at 15 yrs old and it tought me to respect money and my parents, just cause he has been working since july doesnt give him the right to come out and tell me that he wants to be on his own, he is not paying rent and I supply the phone and if he needs food I give it to him, but he is making money now, but doesnt give him the right to tell me, he no longer needs me and he wants me out of the pic. when things got tough and I was going thru the divorce, I stuck with him, his dad only picked his things up and took off, I have been with him thru his stupidness of the mariguana problem, from beginning to end, and now he wants me out.. and the reason he is not in school is because, I wanted to give him a little break cause he does struggle with school and rather than getting him in and starting the new friend thing and new teachers, for a teenager its harder to let go once they get to know their friends, so I thought it would be better just to start him in a new school.. sometimes, when children appreciate what you do, then you are apt to give them a little more freedom, I have 3 other children and they never disrepected me like he has, and it does hurt and I am not a perfect mom.. I do have my faults, that is why I chose to come here to hear everyones, oppinions.. thanks you.. good and bad, bring it on..

Honey, the LAW might disagree with you pushing him out to work so much at 15.

It's not about whether or not you think it's right or wrong.

Hello, child protective services?

Mom- you are very much in the wrong making kid your drop out of school to work in violation of child labor laws. Does he even have the necessary Work Permit?

Your story has changed twice - you wanted him to earn money before you move to Mexico (again, does the kids father know about this move, or are you going to break laws by Parental Abduction?). Your next story is the kid wants all kinds of expensive electronic stuff - you are the parent....you say "NO" or let the kid work a LEGAL part-time job with a work permit and legal number of hours, around his school schedule.

Again, if you truly love your child, please call child protective services so they can straighten this mess out.