Medical Expenses of Unemancipated Adult

My question involves child support in the State of: PA. I apologize if this isn't the correct forum to have posted this in, but I couldn't see where else it should go. My stepson is 23 years old, has not lived with *either* parent for 4 years, has graduated high school and graduated from a business school and community college. He has deliberately stayed in school to keep the support coming in and to avoid getting a job. We discussed with him that the support has to stop, and gave him 6 months to make arrangements. When it was up, we filed for emancipation in our home state (NJ), where the child support case was in force. The judge refused to emancipate because he was "a full time student", despite that he violated every single requirement on his part. They did however terminate the support order because he didn't live with his mother (the named recipient) and urged him to file for support in his home state of PA. He was dropped from our health insurance due to circumstances beyond our control when he dropped out of school and concealed it from us. He has apparently now incurred substantial medical bills. Will we be responsible for them? Can the person he lives with sue us for them? I understand that PA doesn't require support past 18, but also doesn't automatically emancipate.

Thank you for any help!

Will you be responsible for his medical bills under the custody order? That would depend upon the full facts and the terms of the order that remain in effect.

You say that the New Jersey court "urged him to file for support in his home state of PA" - whatever that was supposed to entail. What then happened in Pennsylvania?

Who is "the person he lives with" and why do you believe that person have any basis to sue you?

When he was 19 the court sent us the emancipation inquiry letter. He said he was enrolling in school, so we agreed to keep paying support until he was done, which was supposed to be 18 months. The judge ordered support to continue for the duration of his school. I *believe* that he ordered us to have him on our health insurance, but I can't find the papers right now (ugh!). He was required to stay in school, maintain passing grades and send us his reports cards within 10 days of issuance. He did NONE of those things. We came to find out that he'd dropped out of school and the insurance company (not US) dropped him because of it. We haven't seen any report cards or any proof that he's actually in school for years.

At this last emancipation hearing the judge ordered the child support terminated because he didn't live with his mother and that if he wanted the support paid directly to him to file for it in his home state of PA. Two and a half months later we've heard nothing from the courts there. I'm assuming they tried to file, but in PA support ends at 18. Parents aren't required to pay for post secondary education there.

"The person he lives with" is his friend's mother. He moved in with their family several years ago. She's a nightmare. In PA you don't have to be a legal guardian to be granted child support, so she took us to court when he moved in with them when his mom kicked him out at 16. He later moved out, then back in when he was 19. If this woman (read: psycho) can sue us for ANYTHING, she'll do it.

I apologize if this is rambling or confusing. I'm at my wits end dealing with these nut bags after all these years. My husband and I are in our mid-later 40's snd have *nothing* for our own future and he and this woman are bleeding us dry so he can be a professional student.