Illinois Emancipation

Alright... heres the story. My partner (whose name I will not disclose) has recently turned 17. He lives in a household (in a not-so-safe neighborhood) with his mother and father. They basically live at poverty level and I wouldn't call it the best place to live... at all. I am 18 and I live a few states away from him. We have been together for a little over a month and have known each other for almost a year. Mind you, we are both male. Recently, his parents found out he was gay and have been cracking down very hard on him. They ripped his internet cables out of the wall, made a few threats (added to the ones he already receives in his community), think he's crazy and needs to seek a therapist, and have been causing a lot of emotional and mental abuse upon him. We discussed emancipation and we both looked it up. He has a job, but can not afford a place of shelter (IE apartment). However, thats what I would be doing while he finishes his last year of school (working to support us, which should not be hard seeing as I work three jobs). One of the only things we are concerned about, is will the judge allow him to become emancipated if his parents will not allow it and that he -himself- can't afford a place of shelter? I mean, it would not be right for him to live in a hostile enviornment where he doesn't feel safe This could also fall under the child abuse sections under emotional abuse and trauma. If need be, I would gladdly become a guardian (if I was able) and would do anything to get him away from that (IE If I need a lawyer, I will get one). I love him with all my heart and I do not want to see him suffering like he has been.

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Quoting ShadowLowell

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Alright... heres the story. My partner (whose name I will not disclose) has recently turned 17. He lives in a household (in a not-so-safe neighborhood) with his mother and father. They basically live at poverty level and I wouldn't call it the best place to live... at all. I am 18 and I live a few states away from him. We have been together for a little over a month and have known each other for almost a year. Mind you, we are both male. Recently, his parents found out he was gay and have been cracking down very hard on him. They ripped his internet cables out of the wall, made a few threats (added to the ones he already receives in his community), think he's crazy and needs to seek a therapist, and have been causing a lot of emotional and mental abuse upon him. We discussed emancipation and we both looked it up. He has a job, but can not afford a place of shelter (IE apartment). However, thats what I would be doing while he finishes his last year of school (working to support us, which should not be hard seeing as I work three jobs). One of the only things we are concerned about, is will the judge allow him to become emancipated if his parents will not allow it and that he -himself- can't afford a place of shelter? I mean, it would not be right for him to live in a hostile enviornment where he doesn't feel safe This could also fall under the child abuse sections under emotional abuse and trauma. If need be, I would gladdly become a guardian (if I was able) and would do anything to get him away from that (IE If I need a lawyer, I will get one). I love him with all my heart and I do not want to he him suffering like he has been.

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A judge is not going to emancipate a minor so they can go live with a b/f or g/f.

If there is abuse the proper authorities need to be contacted.

I had thought that and basically knew that. There is emotional abuse now in the household and he has been thinking of running away. I told him not to do that for many reasons. One being that I would get completely screwed for it. But what is he suppose to do? What if he can get away from his parents via Child Services... what then? He goes into foster home?

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I had thought that and basically knew that. There is emotional abuse now in the household and he has been thinking of running away. I told him not to do that for many reasons. One being that I would get completely screwed for it. But what is he suppose to do? What if he can get away from his parents via Child Services... what then? He goes into foster home?

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That is a possibility...

He should speak with his counselor at school, they are mandated to report abuse.

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That is a possibility...

He should speak with his counselor at school, they are mandated to report abuse.

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Sorry about the new thread, hit the worng key. Anyway... but what... for a year it will be so hard for us to get in touch. I don't want to see him go from foster home to foster home till he turns of age. I will have him speak with his counselors and it's not like other family will take him in instead of a foster family, they are old fashion and all frown upon homosexuality.

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Sorry about the new thread, hit the worng key. Anyway... but what... for a year it will be so hard for us to get in touch. I don't want to see him go from foster home to foster home till he turns of age. I will have him speak with his counselors and it's not like other family will take him in instead of a foster family, they are old fashion and all frown upon homosexuality.

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The administrator will merge this thread with your original one.

He may not even end up in foster care. This is still very new to his family and may take a while for things to cool down.

As far as not being able to have contact with him, his parents call the shots until he turns 18.

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The administrator will merge this thread with your original one.

He may not even end up in foster care. This is still very new to his family and may take a while for things to cool down.

As far as not being able to have contact with him, his parents call the shots until he turns 18.

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I know the last part and thats what sucks the most. Not to mention that if they wanted too, they could get a restraining order against me just cause I am of age and he is not (only states this cause he knows someone it happened to). I don't understand the whole concept of why homosexuality is so frowned upon. I mean, he's your damn kid. That doesn't give you the right to start tormenting him mentally and making threats against him (which again falls under child abuse). I am just afraid that something... bad could happen to him. As I stated, he doesn't live in a safe area and his community is not one for homosexuality (which mind you that no one would have known if his mother wasn't spying on our conversation).

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I know the last part and thats what sucks the most. Not to mention that if they wanted too, they could get a restraining order against me just cause I am of age and he is not (only states this cause he knows someone it happened to). I don't understand the whole concept of why homosexuality is so frowned upon. I mean, he's your damn kid. That doesn't give you the right to start tormenting him mentally and making threats against him (which again falls under child abuse). I am just afraid that something... bad could happen to him. As I stated, he doesn't live in a safe area and his community is not one for homosexuality (which mind you that no one would have known if his mother wasn't spying on our conversation).

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Well, if the parents are so set against his homosexuality, I doubt they will be letting the neighborhood know.

It is probably best to let things die down a bit.

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Well, if the parents are so set against his homosexuality, I doubt they will be letting the neighborhood know.

It is probably best to let things die down a bit.

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What would happen if they basically decide to 'disown' him? I dont know if there is anything legal about this, but I've heard it before.

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What would happen if they basically decide to 'disown' him? I dont know if there is anything legal about this, but I've heard it before.

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That would be unfortunate...

Do you mean kick him out?