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I'm not rushing towards sex abuse actually.

Kids masturbate. They do it - normal, healthy kids - from as young as 3 years. Sometimes even younger. Normal, healthy kids also play "doctor". Nobody is teaching them anything and while it can be a sign of abuse it can also be just the natural curiosity and fascination with their body.



I'd like to have "acting out sexually" clarified before making that jump.

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Quoting Dogmatique

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I'm not rushing towards sex abuse actually.

Kids masturbate. They do it - normal, healthy kids - from as young as 3 years. Sometimes even younger. Normal, healthy kids also play "doctor". Nobody is teaching them anything and while it can be a sign of abuse it can also be just the natural curiosity and fascination with their body.



I'd like to have "acting out sexually" clarified before making that jump.

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Very true. I would never consider normal masturbation or playing doctor between like-aged kids as "sexual acting out".

Right, me neither :)

But umpteens of parents would consider it be that. As you know many parents still think there's something inherently wrong with their kids being curious. Heck, when they're that little? They don't necessarily understand why, or how, but they do recognize that some things give pleasurable feelings.

If there are other warning signs though I'd be wary, too.

Yes I have a session set up for her when she comes home from dads, and there is an open custody suit for modification, amicus attorneys are involved. I have a lot of presure on me from all ends. Yes it could be seen as inoccent curosity or exploration... but why all of sudden after visits start?? Incidents include my daughter telling another kid to pee in front of her or she wont be her friend anymore, the last her and a little boy went behind a tree at school and was touching and feeling. The school should of been watching the kids more closely and it never would of happened. The other kid said that my daughter told him that if he didnt do this with she would hit him. But with the reaccuring incidents and the timming has me worried and I figure it better to be safe then sorry. She was in counsling at the begining of the visits to help her cope with all the new changes in her life, and we (the counsler and I) stopped the sessions after she seemed to be adjusting well. The first thing that raised a flag for me but wasnt sure if I was freaking myself out or if something was going on. After comming home from a visit she stuck her hand down her pants and poked her finger out through the zipper. After that we had a talk about behavior like that but more incidents followed that. For my daughter's sake I pray nothing bad is happening at her dads, but I wont turn an to what might or might not be signs. She will be starting counsling when she comes home and I will be there for her regardless!