Re: Mother Keeps Child when She Feels Like It During Our Visitation
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Cause jk either has the patience of Job, or the liquor of Ireland. Or both.
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Re: Mother Keeps Child when She Feels Like It During Our Visitation
semblue, seriously, while there may be problems you have not disclosed here, what you have disclosed does not scream "mom is bad". It is extremely difficult to not show a subjective opinion of a person you have admittedly been at odds for 5 years. It is just beyond typical human nature not too. Because of that, I temper what you say a bit. When you do that, I just do not see a problem like you are attempting to relate.
You have apparently called the police so often they do not want to respond anymore. The fact they have been called is a problem in my book. While they do have a place, a child watching the cops show up all the time tends to do something to their little minds.
You have reported her to CPS and they do not see what you are seeing.
Honestly, if you have not been able to show mom is a danger, is whacko, is a threat to the child in 5 years, I think you are seeing something that isn't there.
I have to ask: if mom is so bad, why does she still have a job, at a doctor's office no less? A doctor generally cannot afford to have mentally unstable people working for them. It is bad publicity and can cause myriad problems.
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The mother is terribly wrong and neglectful
yet apparently nobody else sees this
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.I to have to teach her that poor hygiene, which is acceptable at her moms,.
yet she hold a job where it is basically a requisite to have decent hygiene standards and again, nobody has seen what you are arguing is a problem. Maybe you are a bit OCD when it comes to hygiene. If you really read about health, you will find that we, (Americans) really do wash too much. It is unhealthy to constantly remove the horny layer of the dermis especially by regularly using a "scrub" to do it. It is intended to help protect the underlying new skin cells. We are meant to have a horny layer. Washing your hair constantly? why? It is for cosmetic (appearance) purposes more than it being "unclean".
Sure, there are some parts of a persons hygiene regimen that are needed but in reality, we are a country that takes that to excess.
but since you want to claim you are so overly hygienic; do you have a bidet? If not, you fail in that area. A bidet provides for a much more hygienic cleansing that what we typically do. If you are going to argue hygiene, its best you live up to your claims lest somebody that uses a bidet regularly will think you are lacking in your hygiene care.
Don't think mom is a grubby pig just because she does not practice the same standards as you. One place CPS is almost always critical on is the cleanliness of children. If they haven't found a problem in that area, I suggest you are expecting more than is needed.
but hey, I think anything I say is falling on deaf ears so I'll stop. Make sure you have the child's interests at heart and not yours or the fathers. That is what really matters.
Re: Mother Keeps Child when She Feels Like It During Our Visitation
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SHE CONTINUES TO KEEP MY STEP DAUGHTER WHEN IT IS OUR WEEKEND TO HAVE HER
Has the child's father reported this to the court or to the police? Even i fthe police will not act, he needs to bring her non-compliance to the attention of the court. If he chooses to do nothing, than nothing is precisely what will happen.
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HER MOTHER SAYS SHE HAS HAD LICE 4 TIMES IN 1 MONTH AND THAT MY STEP DAUGHTER IS GETTING IT FROM MY 8 MNTH OLD, SHE KEEPS HER OUT OF SCHOOL WHEN SHE LIKES AND WRITES FAKE DCTRS NOTES FROM THE OFFICE SHE WORKS AT , SHE LEAVES HER AT OUR HOUSE SOMETIMES FOR DAYS EVEN WEEKS,WE HAVE MANY INCIDENT REPORTS FROM THE POLICE WHO ARE NOW TIRED OF DEALING WITH US,WE HAVE A DATED DETAIL CALENDAR WITH ALL OF THESE EVENTS WE'VE BEEN TRACKING FOR THE LAST 5 YRS, MY STEP DAUGHTER NOW HAS PROBLEMS IN SCHOOL,WITH AUTHORITY,WITH SCHOOL WORK,AND WITH OTHER KIDS HER AGE ,SHE HAS BEEN CAUGHT BEING MEAN TO MY 8 MNTH OLD, AND IS A COMPULSIVE LIAR NOW.WE WANT TO HELP HER BEFORE SHE GETS WORSE SHE IS GOING DOWN HILL SO FAST .WE DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO. WE HAVE SPOKEN TO ATTORNEYS, PARALEGALS,CPS AND WE HIT DEAD ENDS, EVERY ONE STATES THE MOTHER CAN GET AWAY WITH THIS ALL BECAUSE SHE IS NOT PHYSICALLY BEATING THE CHILD. ISNT THIS EMOTIONAL ABUSE? WHAT CAN WE DO? A GREAT ATTORNEY COST SO MUCH
If you have spoken to "attorneys, paralegal, [and] CPS" and the police are "tired of dealing" with you, then there is not much more to be done. Clearly, there is insufficient PROOF that something unlawful is happening to the child or that mom is acting in such an egregious manner that the authorities feel compelled to act.
Dad might have to consider bring up his "proof" to the court. However, if his proof can have alternative explanations, or can be pointed back at you and dad, then it may be dead in the water there, too.
Ultimately, dad's remedy is with the court and the custody and visitation order. He can either try and do it himself, or, he can hire an attorney to try and help him frame the issue in a proper fashion to the court.