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Checkmate, Dogmatique
Clearly, you are going to do what you want to do anyway. It is the epitome of selfishness to act in a way that will place others at risk without caring.
Yes, the people that help you will be placed in legal jeopardy all because you want a taste of freedom a few months earlier than you might otherwise be allowed. But, it really will not be freedom. You will still be a child, will be unable to enter into contracts, get gainful employment, or do anything that adults can do because you will be a minor who has runaway from home. You will have to look over your shoulder and be entirely dependent upon others until you turn 18. And even then, your friends will not be immune to suffering the consequences of YOUR actions.
Your friends and associates will run the risk of incarceration, loss of employment and freedom, even the loss of their families just so you can be free from the control of your grandparents for a little while (or, be free of their lack of control to hear you complain about it). And, as a ward of the state, they may be quite concerned as the liability rests with them more so than with your grandparents, so they may be more inclined to pursue any related criminal charges that can be identified.
Sure, your friends may never be identified and charged. But, are they willing to risk their futures, families, and finances just so you can do what you want for a few months? Are you so selfish that your wants and desires are more important than their freedom?
Do as you will ... because, clearly, no one can talk you out of it. You will justify your actions in your mind and you will decide that it is well worth the risk to others so you can breathe the fresh air of somewhere new - the greener grass just over the horizon. Reality can be a bitter pill ... I pray that it will not be too hard to swallow one day.
I don't want my friend to lose her family or job, but I don't think she will. I can only hope for the best when this happens, if it does happen. I haven't fully decided on what to do. I don't know which way to lean, there is a lot at stake, and if I go through with it, I won't be able to talk to my friends or family. Plus, the possibility of my friend losing everything she has. I don't know. =\
What you should be doing right now, instead of creating the Greatest Drama the World has Ever Known, is to be preparing yourself for either education or training so that you can actually support yourself in the real world. Buckling down and improving yourself is not fun, though, and drama is, so you're taking the easy way out in life.
Why don't you try an be helpful, instead of a snot nosed adult? All adults look down at children as if they are stupid, and don't have a clue how to take care of themselves. You probably never had to go through any of the things I have and had to, but since I'm a child I don't have a voice so says the government. And every other adult in the world. Instead of looking down on someone who wants to grow up and move away from the drama, and abusive situation, all you do it look down on them and pretty much tell them. You only have a year left, just let them beat you. It's fine you'll be out in a year. Well no, that's not right, but of course, since you are the adult, it is right. No matter how hard and loud a child screams, unless you want to admit that something is wrong it flys in one ear and out the other. Life is hard, but some people have it harder, and I'm definitly not the one on the worse end, but still, being in the bottom isn't rainbows and butterflies. Someone who hasn't gone through what I have would never understand. Drama, is not what I want, I want to be AWAY from the bloody drama. I want a nice peaceful place to read, and write. Not a screaming house of morons, that beat us until we bleed. Like I said, you wouldn't understand. And you think me childish, and immature, and not fit to live on my own, but what's so different from the day before you turn 18 to the day you do? Nothing, it's just a day. Some people have to grow up faster then other, and don't get to live through childhood. I raised my siblings, you probably played with dolls, or dinosaurs. I want to be able to live without a day of physical pain, a day for myself. Not being a damn slave for the people I live with. Once again, I'm sure this is very childish to you, and you pay very little mind to what I say, but think about it. How would you feel if you shed blood every day, at the hands of your parents, or grandparents? Would you sit by and do nothing? Watch as the police scuff you off? Watch as DCF does nothing? Friends walk away because they don't understand? No! You wouldn't, you'd take action, you'd find some way to escape, to be free. And that's what I'm trying to do. I'm trying to excersice all of my options before choosing the best venue. You may not find it a good idea, and I don't either, but it's better then the abuse.
To quote Marcia from the TV series "The Brady Bunch": "We're a new generation, mom, you just don't UNDERSTAND".
I did. My parents nearly killed me. Skull fracture, brain surgery, physical therapy, psychologist visits, the works. Been there, done that, me and 794,000 other kids were proven victims of child abuse that year. It's that common, you're not as unique as your melodramatic howling would have us believe.Quote:
How would you feel if you shed blood every day, at the hands of your parents, or grandparents?
It doesn't change the legal reality - if you're being abused, you call CPS, and you tell your teachers and counselors, and you keep calling and keep telling the mandated reporters at your school. Lather, rinse, repeat. Call 1.800.4-A.CHILD. Have your counselor document your injuries, and you keep doing it until action is taken. Running away will not help you. Running away will not help your siblings, either. All it will do is create problems for the people you run to.
So, you are saying that you live in an abusive household.... but you don't want your brother and sister taken out of that same abusive household?