It seems that they have had control over you for so long, that you yourself find it hard to sever the ties with them and move on. It is a big step since you have had them there to help support you with rent and food and utilities, but if you feel that you can make it on your own, and would have a job where you move to, from this point on, it is only you holding you back. Good luck to you!
Emancipation After Reaching the Age of Majority
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08-30-2006, 10:31 AMturbowrayI agree with Happytrails
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08-30-2006, 11:50 AMrmet4nzkxRe: Emancipation After Reaching the Age of Majority
While you may be working and paying for many of your needs, you are not covering all of them. If you have a good job with benefits are you sure you could transfer out of state to the location you desire? While you complain of having a curfew, that is typical for adult children living at home, you mave to follow the rules if you are to be respectful. Since you are not actually planning on moving out of state to attend school, that blows a hole in that argument, and really living with a friend imposes certain unexpected relationship problems that don't exist as friends. I don't know of any "race" that believes that higher education is is bad per se and your relationships with your family will endure whether or not you break those ties. I would say that as long as you have a good job with benefits, keep it and start taking classes at a community college, part time. Start to prove to your parents you are an adult, learn to drive and get a car and insurance. I'll bet by the time you do that your finances will start dictating your future more realically.
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08-30-2006, 10:41 PMXingbaRe: Emancipation After Reaching the Age of MajorityQuote:
Quoting rmet4nzkx
...Okay first of all, I do plan on going to school when I get out there. Thats the main reason why I want to go because I know that It will be a lot easier to split $590 rent and go to school rather than stay in CA and try to afford $850-$1200 on my own and still try to make it in school. I also said that I want to get familliar with the place and have a comforatable place to stay before I decide to go, otherwise I'll be doing homework on top of a cardboard box and I dont want to get lost on the way home, and I want to be alive so that I can go to school. People move in with close friends everyday and its up to you on whether or not your going to have problems with each other. On top of that, I'm not going to waste my time going to a community college when I know that I have the grades, skill, portfolio and talent to go to the school that I desire. :D
Secondly, I can't and refuse to respect people who will not respect me whether they are my parents are not. they do not respect me and I will not go into detail with this either so I really don't wanna get any BS from anyone about that.
Third, It's not the entire race that does that, my parents just use it as an ignorant excuse for their own stupidity. I don't use it because I know that it is a lame scapegoat for anything.(I'm not going to say which because I don't want to spark up controversy) and my parents are very unforgiving, selfish, dirty people, they have that whole "Oh Yeah? I'll Fix You" thing going on and they've always been that way. They actually wanted to keep me away from college so that I could work as a cashier in their Mid-Life Crisses BBQ restaurant which never fell through. It's hard not to believe them when they threaten to say that I can never come back and that I'm a stupid slutty bitch if I leave.
Last but not least, I've already proven more than I could ever prove to them about being an adult, and its entirly their tripp if they do not want to take it into consideration or even recognize me for these things. Like someone said before It's now a personal issue/decision and I now have to show them that they can not walk all over me or make me join their disgusting misery any longer... -
08-31-2006, 01:52 AMturbowrayRe: Emancipation After Reaching the Age of Majority
I hope to hear updates on how you are doing after the move!:p