Is Mom Going to Be Living High on the Hog

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Quoting cbg

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You have made yourself quite clear. You resent your ex having a lifestyle that exceeds yours; you believe that the income from her other daughter's father ought to be used to support your daughter so that you can pay less; and you do not want to have to pay a single cent more than YOU believe your daughter's support ought to come to.

Oh, I think we understand your position quite well.

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As an aside, it almost makes me want to recommend to folk that before you choose to have a child with someone, make sure you live in a state where the shared-income model is used to calculate child support.

Not that I'm jaded and cynical ;)

Instant family of 4 kids at the age of 21, took responsibility for all of them as they were mine. Raised them well, all great kids and they are all benefits to our society. Helped show them the world.

Now I get the crappy apartment. LOLz. I'm sure my daughter will think highly of her mom as time progesses. They all (all the kids) know that they would not have had the childhood's that they had if it weren't for me. And they are all massively appreciative of it. I find great joy in that, but the bottom line is the basement floor apartment that I will be living in.

Oh, I see. That makes all the difference. Under those circumstances, your daughter doesn't need food, clothes, or a roof over her head at all, and you should easily be able to get your support reduced to zero. :wallbang:

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Quoting Dogmatique

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As an aside, it almost makes me want to recommend to folk that before you choose to have a child with someone, make sure you live in a state where the shared-income model is used to calculate child support.

Not that I'm jaded and cynical ;)

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I didn't "choose" to have a child with her. She chose me. Again, I was told that she couldn't get pregnant...I was a 20 year old dumb kid who was manipulated by an obsessed woman who wasn't happy with her husband. For what its worht, she has 9 year on me in age.

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Quoting cbg

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Oh, I see. That makes all the difference. Under those circumstances, your daughter doesn't need food, clothes, or a roof over her head at all, and you should easily be able to get your support reduced to zero. :wallbang:

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Stop reading between the lines. I'm not here to agrue. I never said I have any reservations with paying support. So please go from line to line, without selectively skipping lines that you chose not to read.

I have read every word. Your meaning comes through loud and clear.

Tell me, just exactly what percentage of your income IS your daughter worth? Because you still don't seem to comprehend that this is about HER, not your mother.

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Quoting johnny333

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I didn't "choose" to have a child with her. She chose me. Again, I was told that she couldn't get pregnant...I was a 20 year old dumb kid who was manipulated by an obsessed woman who wasn't happy with her husband. For what its worht, she has 9 year on me in age.

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Yes, you chose to have a child with her, Dad. You chose her by having sex with her - every single time you do that (unless the woman is post-menopausal or hysterectomied) you risk a pregnancy. You're also telling the court that you approve her to be the mother of your child.

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Stop reading between the lines. I'm not here to agrue. I never said I have any reservations with paying support. So please go from line to line, without selectively skipping lines that you chose not to read.

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Well, to be fair, it is coming across a little bit like that.

I'm being perfectly serious here, okay? Go offline for a bit. Have a cup of coffee, a buttered crumpet, a beer, whatever it is that you do. Then come back in a couple of hours and re-read your posts.

Purely out of interest, what do you think you should be paying percentage wise?

To all of you folks, my apologies. Not trying to come off like an ass. I really didn't think I was articulating the situation and my position in a manner that alludes to me not wanting to pay for my little girl. But apprently I am or you wouldn't be collectively saying that I am.

Its just that combined (me and the other Dad CS payment) annually of ~$40-45k will not be spent on those two girls. Sure some of it will, no question, but I know my ex, and much of it will benefit her...and not those kids.

I'm not going to continue to harp on this, I don't need to vent as I have enough friends and family in my corner who know the situation intimately. I was only here to get answers from some experienced people who are familar with situations like mine. I got what I was looking for, time to move one, and thanks again to all of you who chimed in with useful information.

And what you still don't grasp is that child support is meant to reimburse the custodial parent for what they have spent on the child. You really don't get it if you think that every penny of what you pay is supposed to be spent on the child.

Your meaning is perfectly clear. You're fine with paying child support as long as Mom does not benefit by even so much as a penny, and as long as you're the one in the big house and she's the one in the basement apartment.

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Quoting cbg

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And what you still don't grasp is that child support is meant to reimburse the custodial parent for what they have spent on the child. You really don't get it if you think that every penny of what you pay is supposed to be spent on the child.

Your meaning is perfectly clear. You're fine with paying child support as long as Mom does not benefit by even so much as a penny, and as long as you're the one in the big house and she's the one in the basement apartment.

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Wonder how many Coach purses Mom has?

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