How Can I See My Child in the Hospital

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: SC

Can I be denied visitation with my daughter at a hospital? Also, as a dad what are my visitation rights and parental rights. She is 10 weeks old, in the hospital for a second time. I am looking for work as I recently am a high school graduate. I go see my daughter every day for several hours. I don't have a car to drive so I'm dependent on my dad to take me to see her.

Yesterday the mother got into an argument over the phone with my dad and she accused him of not 'caring enough' for his grand daughter although he checks every day with her mom and spends 3-7 hours at hospital with me.

The family isn't talking to me and mom make disparaging remarks on her vlog and facebook. They keep threatening me about child support but I can't find a job, can they make it retroactive?

What can I do as a dad to ensure that I can still see my daughter? She claims I don't care enough about my daughter because I don't sleep overnight at the hospital. She also complains she doesn't get any sleep lately and when he told her that was a consequence of being a teen-ager mom she hung up on him.

Can anyone give me sound legal advice? And please if you read this and decide to leave an ignorant remark, save your typing!!

Thanks

Worrisome dad

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Quoting twoouttafive

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My question involves a child custody case from the State of: SC

Can I be denied visitation with my daughter at a hospital? Also, as a dad what are my visitation rights and parental rights. She is 10 weeks old, in the hospital for a second time. I am looking for work as I recently am a high school graduate. I go see my daughter every day for several hours. I don't have a car to drive so I'm dependent on my dad to take me to see her.

Yesterday the mother got into an argument over the phone with my dad and she accused him of not 'caring enough' for his grand daughter although he checks every day with her mom and spends 3-7 hours at hospital with me.

The family isn't talking to me and mom make disparaging remarks on her vlog and facebook. They keep threatening me about child support but I can't find a job, can they make it retroactive?

What can I do as a dad to ensure that I can still see my daughter? She claims I don't care enough about my daughter because I don't sleep overnight at the hospital. She also complains she doesn't get any sleep lately and when he told her that was a consequence of being a teen-ager mom she hung up on him.

Can anyone give me sound legal advice? And please if you read this and decide to leave an ignorant remark, save your typing!!

Thanks

Worrisome dad

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First, you need to knock off the attitude - seriously dude, ending your post like that is hardly going to encourage the very kind volunteers here to entertain your question.


Second, until paternity is established and there are court orders in place, you have no rights at all to see your child.

Mom can absolutely deny you access to the child.

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Can I be denied visitation with my daughter at a hospital?

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Until paternity is established, you don't even exist, in a legal sense. If you want rights, you'll need to establish them via a visitation order.

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Yesterday the mother got into an argument over the phone with my dad and she accused him of not 'caring enough' for his grand daughter although he checks every day with her mom and spends 3-7 hours at hospital with me.

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Family drama, but not a legal issue.

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The family isn't talking to me and mom make disparaging remarks on her vlog and facebook. They keep threatening me about child support but I can't find a job,

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What do you think you child is living on? You made the child, it's your responsibility to support it. If you don't want people talking about you like a deadbeat dad, then don't BE one.

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can they make it retroactive?

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Absolutely possible. Your child has been eating all along.

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What can I do as a dad to ensure that I can still see my daughter?

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Establish paternity first, if you're not already on the birth certificate. Then seek a visitation order. Expect that to go hand in hand with a child support order.

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She claims I don't care enough about my daughter because I don't sleep overnight at the hospital. She also complains she doesn't get any sleep lately and when he told her that was a consequence of being a teen-ager mom she hung up on him.

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She's allowed to complain, but those are the sorts of things she should have considered BEFORE getting pregnant. It's a little late now. And yes, when teenagers have babies that they can't support and aren't ready to care for, it has consequences and takes a toll on time, energy, money...

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Can anyone give me sound legal advice?

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Get ready for 18 years of child support payments and dealing with a complaining mom.

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M She also complains she doesn't get any sleep lately and when he told her that was a consequence of being a teen-ager mom she hung up on him.

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I just caught this. Those are not typos.

Exactly who are you in this situation?

I think the OP is the father, and he's complaining that the mother's own father is being unsupportive.

Granddad's attitude seems to be one of telling mom: "you made the baby, YOU deal with the associated needs and problems". OP and mom seem to think that the child should be raised, reared, and, most importantly, supported by, mom's parents (although I suspect that they neither signed up for such, nor had the enjoyment associated with creating the child in the first place, which would be a whole different thread!)

@Dogmatic: I didn' mean to offend you or anyone else, please accept my sincerest apology.

I am on the birth certificate, the mother lives with parents. How she became pregnant, she didn't take her birth control pill as prescribed and then BOOM, we have a baby. We discussed the long term affects of having a baby at such a young age, and she didn't want to abort, so I supported her decision.

I love my daughter dearly, I am dealing with a family that no matter what I do, I'm the bad guy. If I stay at the hospital for 3 nights, I'm the bad guy for going home to take a shower. There is constant friction between the baby's mother and I. My role is to support my daughter, not the mom's family.

I know my response is all over the place, but I'm just lost! I can't talk to my ex because she blows up at me no matter what I try to do. I'm just looking for some legal guidance to help me out.

I am trying to be as supportive as I can be, but when I get to the hospital, I'm in an environment where the maternal family makes it a uncomfortable situation, I can be very civil.

My dad was the one who told her about the consequences of being a new mom. Her parents already told me "no sleep overs" to help out with the baby. I'd go to her house during the day and spend 10 hours plus with my child so mom can get sleep, but then I'm shot in the back because mom has lost so much sleep overnight. I can't control that environment. I want to support my daughter if only I can find a job, my option now is to go school since work seems sporatic.

One last note, I have offered to take the baby for the weekend so she can get rest, but she told me she needed her parents permission in order for the baby to come to my house? Is that legal?

Any assistance is greatly appreciated.