Blocked from My Son's Life, but Not Giving Up

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Quoting upset dady

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I can't afford to fly across country, taking time away from my job, to file in court. The Pierce County Superior Court's website even states for cases that were heard in their jurisdiction, to "contact the presiding judge" which is what I had done

You know what "Knowitall" I came here for advice, not wiseass coments. So if that's all you have, then just move on, and let someone who can give REAL advice...not "Hail Mary" advice. If I can't afford to fly across country, what makes you think I could afford a Lawyer with a $5,000 retainer fee, and $250 per hour fee that 5 out of the 10 I called quoted me at, 3 of the others wanted even more, 1 was so expensive that she wouldn't even give me her rates, and the 10th wasn't even taking on any more cases.

I don't know what you may be thinking, but I'm not some Johnny Dumb Dumb, that doesn't know the difference between my rear and a hole in the ground, I DO have life experience, and don't deal with ignorant scum, like you, who have nothing better in life to do then trying to make others feel stupid about their lack of knowledge.

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And I can guarantee you that your letter was, very simply, useless.

At this point, you need an attorney.

Or, you need to humble up and educate yourself as to how it works. There are family law facilitators in most counties in WA state - but you have to be here to actually gain access to them. They CAN help.

What you should expect once you track Mom down and have her served, is a graduated, supervised visitation period where you and the child can be re-introduced, and which will occur in WA (Mom's community). If all goes well and you complete further supervised visitation, you will eventually be able to have your child visit with you in TN and would likely "graduate" to the usual long-distance parenting plan.

You have absolutely no chance whatsoever at getting custody of this child. You need to let that idea go, for sure.

As the clerk to a judge, I'll tell you what happened to the letter. It was tossed the the circular file. Ex Parte communications are barred by law in every state I can think of.

Get in touch with the presiding judge? Absolutely, in the form of a properly noticed motion. Not a phone call. Not a letter, but via a pleading.

However, if you can't afford an attorney and you can't afford to fly across country, how are you expecting to exercise your visitation? You didn't think a judge was just going to pack up a child and send him to someone he hasn't seen in years... did you?

If you did, let me tell you. He's not. Not even a little bit.

Thanks to evryone who has given honest help. Although I may not agree with every bit of info or criticism, I have learned more than what my previous research led me to believe. Thank you again to all

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Quoting CourtClerk

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As the clerk to a judge, I'll tell you what happened to the letter. It was tossed the the circular file. Ex Parte communications are barred by law in every state I can think of.

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Why was it when I pulled up my cause number it had everything from filing for my divorce up to the current including that letter you said was tossed in the circular file?

Because a court clerk recorded the receipt of the document.

You are free to look in the court file to determine if a copy was retained, or to ask the judge's secretary what the judge's policy is when he receives ex parte letters. It may be that the judge isn't even aware that a letter came to the court.

They received it... it's just not read/considered. Not by a bench officer it's not.

Do you think that a judge sees EVERYTHING that is put in a court file? That every document goes before him before it goes into a file? If you think so, what time would he have to take the bench? He'd be reading mail all day.