12 Year Old Child Wanting to Stop Her Father Visitations Due to Emotional Abuse

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: North Carolina.

My daughter has been seeing her father every other weekend for most of her life. In the begining there were major issues with safety and fear of her father and we had a gradual visitation set up to ease her into being around her father. Done through a court ordered therapist eval and suggestion. Now that she is older and more vocal about her situation with her father she wants to be able to decide when to go see him and be able to leave without him stopping her when he becomes violent or mean. He is emotionally abusive to her and always has been. She is fearful of him and doesnt stand up to him most times out of fear of what he will do. He gets in rages and calls her names and down everything she says and does. What is the process of a child ebing able to make the choice of when and how long to see a parent? She gets sick to her stomach each time her visit with him comes up. After visitation it takes days to get her back to feeling good about herself. Please give me some steps and information on how to help her with this issue. Thank you for any and all information regarding this type of situation.

There is no process. Children don't make such decisions.

What you can do is get her into counseling; if there is actual abuse going on the counselor can testify in court later, and perhaps supervised visitation can be arranged.