Ex-Spouse Is Not Returning Children's Belongings

Taking your belongings and not bringing them back is NOT "a legal way to steal from you". That is an ILLEGAL way of stealing from you.

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Quoting cbg

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Taking your belongings and not bringing them back is NOT "a legal way to steal from you". That is an ILLEGAL way of stealing from you.

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i do parent him he calls it abuse because his dads way of parenting involves letting the kids make the rules.

WHY ARE YOU LISTENING TO HIM?!

He is the CHILD here. You are the PARENT. Stop letting him control the situation.

No, I am not a lawyer. But I know enough about the law to know that you are allowing your ex and your kids to make you into a victim - because I know enough about the law to know that it does NOT say what your ex says it does.

If you're determined not to go to court - or call the cops about your belongings that you cannot get back - then I don't know what you expect us to do.

there is obviously more going on behind the scenes over at their dads because they come here dictating how things are gonna be and my daughter is suddenly acting like her little brothers and dads attorney. obviously someone over there is building them up for a fight against me.

No, obviously what is happening that you're letting yourself be bullied.

I'm sorry - there's really not much a message board can do for you. Your daughter is a legal adult - you don't have to allow in your house AT ALL. Change the darned locks.

no one is expecting you to do anything.. this was just to gain some legal advice. if you arent an attorney then you are entitled to your opinion but ny state law is worse than other states especially when one parent knows how to manipulate the kids into an all out attack against the other parent. the system isnt fair in ny state at all. i know its easy to sit there and judge and tell someone to not allow them to do that but when youre on the receiving side of this crap its not easy when all they want to do is get into a fist fight with you and your ex has the kids thinking they have all control over the situation. the kids know know the courts will always side with them. all they had to do was lie for their dad and shed a few tears and their father got away with paying support. he has them thinking they can intimidate me and bully me and has the money for a high priced attorney knowing i dont have the money to fight anything.

dogmatique i am assuming you are not an attorney either nor do you know much about NY state laws in family court.

Mom, please, please, please get yourself into some counseling. You really need to be strong here - your child is your *child*. You can't let him control you. You've got to stand up for yourself.

The kids can't go to court. They just can't. Dad is the one who has to file to get things going - and you have to realize (and NY is no different from any other State - trust me) that there needs to be a change in your son's circumstance before he can even file to change custody. Nothing has changed, correct?

Edited: I'm not an attorney. I'm more familiar with family law in virtually every state than you could possibly be aware. By all means, show me the laws that state a child or a parent can change custody without a change of circumstance.

i was hoping to find someone on here who is an actual attorney and knows the law in NY state so I can find out if the things i buy my kids are really considered their property to take wherever they want