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My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a Cent

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  • 08-24-2011, 08:22 PM
    underated
    My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a Cent
    My question involves child support in the State of: ca

    why would a person not have to pay child support to the custodial parent, even after i was orderd to file on her so that i could recive county aid , many times...?
    now our child lives with her (now that shes clean ect). i owed for a years worth of support without notice ( they said they did but they had no addresse i ever lived at)..i found out by dmv suspending my drivers license.i had been paying on a small amount owed cuz she got aid for 2 months. but was unaware of any month 2 month charges ordered. they just took my license again because i can only pay 2/3 of the payment a month due to being laid off my full time job.they take half of what i make...now i use food stamps and am geting into debt bad. any ideas,tips or pointers, the mother wasnt around for 5 years and dont have 2 pay nothen, i raised her alone and now the mother wont even fallow visitation orders,thats a dif story 4 later....im soo lost plz help
  • 08-24-2011, 08:27 PM
    Mr. Knowitall
    Re: My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a C
    You suggest that you filed for support. When the case went to court and the judge explained why he wasn't ordering support? That's when your question was answered. All we can do is guess.
  • 08-24-2011, 08:28 PM
    LawResearcherMissy
    Re: My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a C
    When Mom failed to pay support, what did you do?
  • 08-24-2011, 11:03 PM
    underated
    Re: My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a C
    i was forced to go into the child support office inside my local welfare office, and give them all the info i knew about the mother (absent parent) in order to recive cash and food aid. in between jobs a couple times. no orders were ever made against me for child support payments durring my pressence in court,nor was i nottified at all in any legal timely manor. i was not sapossed to pay child support anyways if she moved with mother. as stated in first visitation order.

    her husband should of paid the welfare back she collected, not me! wouldnt u think? it all branched from there( the current ammount owed) it was mothers decision to keep the money comin after i paid back the 2 months of support owed from welfare.she even said nope, i dont get nothen from you, even when i paid for our childs health insurance too ...

    hope u can make sense of all that...its a very unfair, hurtful subject...that is taking my freedom away and also my family is feeling it too
  • 08-24-2011, 11:17 PM
    Dogmatique
    Re: My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a C
    Um...why would her husband be responsible for YOUR children?

    Also your posts are very difficult to read - could you use spell-check and correct grammar to help us help you?

    Thanks :)
  • 08-25-2011, 11:36 PM
    underated
    Re: My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a C
    sorry, i text alot as you can see lol and i didnt state enough info for you to fully understand me. i paid back all the welfare she recived, when her husband left her with our daughter and his kids also. so why would they make me pay it all back in child support and not him . he is her husband and father of two of the kids she got cash aid for...im certin that every pennie recived from welfare was not just for our child and not his two as well."man runs out on family, x old man pays for it". the leagal system is so unfair and sexist . i raised our child for years alone so the mother could use drugs and never see her,abuse me and ruin some lives. my origional question is, why wasnt she billed child support after all i did to get some? will she have to eventualy pay if i take her to court,because the local chld supp. office says they have no case or account on her, even tho i filed for child support many times against her.i pay but....am denied my court orderd visitation,still have to pay support, and back support ( I was never notified ,till i lost license ), work or no work they bill me and wont lower monthly either, and add interest biggggtime,they even took my drivers license again due to only getiing 2/3 payments due to lack off work. i lost a job due to that also. i guesse im lost becausei worked so hard in court for so many years, and she never had to do the drug class as court ordered , didnt do anger managment either. never saw a cent nor her . now shes got money, a nice life and im stuck livin the life as if i was her when she was a drug abuser and homles. ive always taken care of things like a good man should. but im in debt like im a horible guy....make sense? any input would be great
  • 08-26-2011, 01:03 AM
    Dogmatique
    Re: My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a C
    I suppose I don't understand why you'd think he'd ever be responsible for YOUR child.

    You're making no sense at all.

    PLEASE try to type in sentences and paragraphs. We're TRULY trying to help you - but you're not making this easy at all.
  • 09-23-2011, 12:42 AM
    underated
    Re: My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a C
    thats not at all what i said. i paid back all the welfare his wife recived..for our child and theirs. i paid support for his child in other words..im a man and take exelnt care of my wife and two kids. thats my job. shes went 5 years w/o payin support, even though i filed for it countless times. she wasnt even billed..ever! we have joint custody, i had full legal and physical for 5 years...no support, ever! now she gets monthly supprt, i owe back pay too because chld supp. failed to have me served with the orders. therfore i couldnt object to anything. i only found out i owed because the local motor vehicle ofice was gona suspend my license do to non payment. quessen i oughts lawyer up lol.thx
  • 09-23-2011, 12:44 AM
    Dogmatique
    Re: My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a C
    That's not what you said?

    If you try to type and use correct spelling and grammar maybe we'll have a better clue?
  • 09-23-2011, 12:52 AM
    underated
    Re: My Ex Went 5 Years Without Paying Child Support, and They Didnt Even Bill Her a C
    n ps, what part of all ive said dont you understand??? out of all that u only got that u think i want another man to pay for my child? you sir should open your eyes and mind juuuust a bit. and my writing is not that bad, lets be real. a gap betwen a few sentences shouldnt keep you from reading about how bad the state of ca. is ruining my life with debt and much more, when the other parent is huge mistake to the human race.

    you mean you dont understand this ????

    "i paid back all the welfare she recived, when her husband left her with our daughter and his kids also. so why would they make me pay it all back in child support and not him . he is her husband and father of two of the kids she got cash aid for...im certin that every pennie recived from welfare was not just for our child and not his two as well."man runs out on family, x old man pays for it".

    ?
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