Choking and threats by husband in Florida

Never thought this would happen. This was so out of the blue. Monday morning husband woke me up at 5am mad at me for going out Friday night when he was gone all weekend long at his bestfriend. We've never had a trust issue so this is way out in left field for his reaction. He was accusing me of going out behind his back and everything else under the sun. I tried to take a shower to get ready for work to just get out of the house. When I did he grabbed me and slammed me against the wall and started choking me telling me he would kill me if I ever cheated on him. I then get back into the shower while he is all in my face, screaming at me, trying to rinse my hair out. I go into our bedroom get dressed and try to get out of there and he says you aren't leaving. I grab the phone and dial 911. The cops show up, ask me what happen then him and they of course, told him to turn around and handcuff him. I filled out a statement at that time. I was also told to do a restraining order by the cop while he was there and the only reason I did this was to keep him away from me until he sought counseling for his anger and to figure out what triggered this absolutely unacceptable behavior. He's never been violent with me and he has no record at all or I would have never married him. He spent 2 days/1 night in jail. I guess the state/court whatever put a restraining order on him so my restraining order didn't really matter from what I'm hearing. He has had no contact with me and is not going to because we both dont want any further problems. What happens now? Do I need to go to court to defend him? He's not a bad person, what he did was totally wrong and he should be made to get some serious counseling/anger management? But I don't want him to lose his job over this and if we make it after counseling then great, if not then I will be fine moving on. Any and all advice needed please help...

You're asking for a personal, not a legal, decision. You may wish to consult a marriage counselor.

I would cooperate with the authorities, but I would tell the Detective and the Prosecutor that this is a first offense, you feel safe with H ... you believe this is aberrant behavior, & you feel H needs counseling - not jail.

Just so everyone knows, we've contacted an attorney, and she asked me if I was going to attend any of the hearings, I said no, unless I needed to for his defense. And that she is filing a motion so we can see each other before the 31st. She also asked if we were in counseling and I told her that this is set up separately for this week. She's hoping to get it all dismissed and have it expunged off his record. I sure hope so. If anyone knows the song "Faraway" from Nickelback, you should go listen to it. And believe me we will be in counseling or we will be divorced, this has always been a deal breaker for me. Time will tell!!