Drug Addicted Parent Wants Visitation
My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Illinois
Ok, deep breath. I am going to try to nutshell this mess. I have an 8 month old baby. His dad and I recently broke up mainly because he is addicted to vicodin. He buys drugs off the streets and steals money from various people to get it. I have been dealing with this on and off for awhile. He is generally a good person with a problem. He recently spent over 1500 in a little over a month on pills. He also wrote suicide notes to everyone, including his son. This last fiasco was more than i could deal with. I have been at my parents in another town for the last couple weeks. i have let my son see his dad a few times under my supervision, but now he wants to have him alone. He has no car, and no place of his own.He has not sought out any treatment as i requested. I have been at home with the baby this whole time and he has been working. Do i have to drop my baby off with a drug addict? There is more, but i am going to stop there.
Re: Drug Addicted Parent Wants Visitation
Without court orders for visitation, you're under no legal obligation to allow contact.
However if you stop, expect him to file in court. His drug use will be a consideration only if you can prove that it's going to endanger your child.
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What proof should i be trying to collect right now in preparation?
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How many convictions does he have?
How many arrests?
When did his drug use start and how long did you live together?
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He doesnt have any convictions.
3 arrests, but not for the drug use...for driving under suspended license.
His drug use has been on and off for about five years. Each time i believe that he is done with it. This last stint was worse because he was stealing from me and he has never done that before. He actually has a bone disease in his knees that causes him alot of pain. He does not have a prescription though. We were living together for about a year and a half.
Re: Drug Addicted Parent Wants Visitation
Can't see a court ordering supervised visitation based upon what you've said.
If he files he'll likely get the standard visitation per guidelines. Like I said though, until there's a court order in place you don't have to allow any visitation.
The court doesn't require him to own or rent his own place (he's apparently living somewhere, correct?), or a car.
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Yes, he is living somewhere. (at his alcoholic fathers with his fathers alcoholic girlfriend who just went through DT) He is wonderful with our son and I think he could potentially be an amazing father, I just want him to get help first. Just want to protect my son. (How many people have been suicidal and decided to take their families with them.) I really have no problem with him spending time with Xander as long as he is sober. I realize that this is my fault in the first place for choosing to have a child with him. I just cringe when i think about Xander being alone with him and his alcoholic family.