Visitation Against the Wishes of a 14 Year Old

I was being sarcastic in regards to the "bigger" statement, but I think you knew that.

I fully understand about the child support. This isn't about the money, it is about the well being of a child. Money even being part of this decision is shallow. In my opinion.

Thanks

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Quoting taps23

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I am not enforcing information because of the following reasons:
1. The child and bio dad have huge issues between the two of them. The child is in counseling, and is dealing with his issues. The dad really isn't pushing the issue as he knows the lash out the child has. This was causing issues at school, amongst other things.

2. I, as mom have called him regularly to let him know how he is doing etc. Other than that, bio dad will only contact child via his phone. Most times I didn't even know this was going on until after the fact.

3. Last communication with bio dad and child it was said that child needed to call dad when he decided he wanted to be part of the family.

4. Child fears dad

As far as your question back to me with the adoption:
I don't feel this is a problem because the child reasoning behind it makes sense. He wants an enhanced sense of belonging. He feels this is his family, and he doesn't nor does he have intentions of seeing him. Bio dad recently has acutally brought up the adoption...child support. Nothing really changes with the adoption except for the check every month. (his words).

As far as the visa goes, as long as we move forward with the adoption he will sign the visa papers.

As far as my need to encourage a relationship, I did that for a lot of years. For the best interest of the two of them. Once he hit about 12, he had a voice and let it be heard. I understand what you are stating but I can't pack up his diaper bag and drop him off anymore. He is bigger than me :)
Thanks...

I don't take what you said as an attack at all.

I may be naive, and will be spending a lot of money with a laywer but I have counselors and educators and many more with how this isn't in the childs best interest.
He is a high functioning autistic, which is a book in itself.

I do hope that one day bio and him will be able to look at eachother for 2 minutes without force. In the meantime, I am looking out for my kid...

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You need an attorney.

I am not going to attack you but I can see what the others are saying in a sense. From my what I have seen with my man and dealing with his ex she just outright put the kids in the middle by saying he is this and that cause he wont kiss her butt in nice words and has just been telling the kids everything from oh he was this and that when we were married to he still owes this amount in back support. Now due to her putting the kids in the middle the oldest wants nothing to do with her mom and lives with us and the other two are playing games and having issues. She has kept the kids from him several times and is about to get charged with contempt. Anyways all I know is I have seen a judge tell another you make the child go even if they are kicking and screaming and that was in Michigan. My man just wants the stuff to stop in his case and everyone get along but his ex has this control issue going on that she wants to have control over him at all times regarding everything and it is majorly messing up the kids. I know not everyones situation can be like mine is with my ex where everyone gets along for the best interest of the child. I wish cause I tell you it makes things so much easier and less stressful.

This is not an attack.

This is the reality. The child did not sign the visitation order. The child was not bound by the visitation order. The parents are... and MOM will be held in contempt of court and can be fined and even jailed for her failure to comply.

This is despite everything you listed. You do not get to pick and choose which parts of the court order you comply with.

You, OP, have assisted in removing him as a father by not complying. As the dad, I would see this rejection for a visa as a means to bring the attention to court.

You will not like court. Judges don't like parents that say silly things like, "my child didn't want to go so I said okay". You make your child do things he doesn't want every day. Why are all those things more important than his relationship with his father?