How Do I Get Our Child the Help She Needs

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I have learned a lot from this site in the past year. And it really has helped me through the waves of harsh feeling I had towards the BM. For what she had done long ago. But I have forgiven her many many times and will continue to do so until she see the errors of her ways.

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Since last posting the BM informed me that she made a appointment for the child to attend counseling. I am very surprised by this, and at the same time very happy for the child. Even thought the BM went behind my back and setup everything without even asking me for input. I think its a control thing on her part. And I expressed my issues with the center she choose because it wasn't really a ideal place to take our child. As it is more or less a behavior, drug, and rehab type place. And I asked what made her choose that place and she stated that her sister goes there for treatment for a disorder she has and stuff. As the sister had her kids taken away and was required by the court to get help.

Well last Friday I was invited to go along with BM and the child to attend the intake appointment. I was never so scared in my life to sit in a lobby in my whole life as its on the wrong side of town and in a very bad location. While sitting there for almost a hour due to the BM being over a half hour late, I got to enjoy the company of a bunch of nuts!! And yes I mean what I say. As people were there to get some sort of shot for addictions, pills for disorders, and so on. The place even had its own pharmacy. I thought I was in the wrong place for a few minutes.

Well she showed up and finally we were called and went back to sign papers, Well I was told I wasnt needed that i need to go back to the lobby. This was the first problem, As I am the one who is going to be paying for it all. But I said fine and waited. About ten minutes later BM returned and I asked what that was about and what all was said. She only stated that it was just paper work and stuff. I asked what kind and there was really no answer from her except that they only needed her.

Then we get called to have interview with the counselor that will be talking with our child. The first thing she ask while we were going to her office is who everyone was and such. And BM stated that I was her father and that we were not together and so forth. And when we get to her office Again I'm told to wait outside. By this time I am starting to get upset.

after a half hour they come out and having a good old time and she ask for the child to come into her office. And 10 minutes later they come out and the counselor states thats all she needed and proceeded to tell BM when the next appointment would be. And of course I asked whats going on as I haven't had a chance to talk with her. As I too was very interested and I figured I would get a chance.

Well the counselor seemed upset by this. I stated that we both share 50/50 and I too care very much for our child and I would like to be involved in her receiving the care and help she needs. so she ask the BM if it were ok? In which that just seemed odd. So I go into her office and she states her name and what she does and so forth. I ask what she does and what type of counseling she performs and so forth. She seemed very ??? I would say bitchy because I wanted to know who she is and what she does and how long and so forth. But I voiced a few of my concerns and she just shot me down on everything I had concerns about. She then went on to say that she don't get involved in court case and she stays out of them. I asked her what she meant and stated that not what were here for and that I am here for help for the child. she really got mad. I then told her that there is a GAL and I asked that she would make the records available to her and she stated that she would have to get a form filled out from the mom for that.

So I asked what she meant as I stated that we both share everything again and even asked if she would like a copy of the court order. She stated again that she didn't get involved into that type of stuff (even though I seen a copy of our court papers the BM gave her on her desk.) so I asked her straight up then whats on your desk there. And covered them up. I then stated to her that I feel that she is not being very professional as I felt she should be as shw was being very bias to me and that if our child were to attend sessions with her I would like to be informed of her progress. and she stated if it were allowed by the mother I would be more than welcomed. And she said She would contact me. Well I dont know how as she never even took my phone number, email or anything else not even last name.

And when we left BM gave me 2 papers in the parking lot one was a invoice for the intake appointment, and the other was a copy of some sort of privacy policy and release of records and it only had her name on it.

So my question is how can she go behind my back and do all this if I was unable to.
Why was I not allowed to be in the room when the paper work was being filled out.
why would the BM have to ok it for the records be released to me and the GAL.
And why was I treated so badly by the counselor in the first place.
Do I have a right to be involved in our child's sessions if BM is involved?
should I file for contempt of court?