What she said. This young woman sounds actually at least emotionally mature enough for emancipation.Quote:
Quoting LawResearcherMissy
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What she said. This young woman sounds actually at least emotionally mature enough for emancipation.Quote:
Quoting LawResearcherMissy
I didn't see this thread till just now, but I am amazed at seeing a young woman who actually gets it. Good job, Kristen, and good luck to you.
I just saw this too.
You seem like a very smart and mature young lady.
Emotional and verbal abuse....I deal with that with my grandmother. Trust me, I know it hurts, but you will learn to just think "Whatever.....".
Biggest thing I can tell you right now is to save as much money as you can. Spend as little time at the house as you can. Between work, homework (maybe you can do that at the library, or stay after school to do it?), and any outside activities like athletics....????
Don't forget, a realistic budget includes things like deodorant, shampoo, etc. Food (plan for more than Ramen Noodles or HungryMans). Transportation. Rent. Telephone or cell phone. Medical and dental care. Laundrymat.
A separate fund for emergencies. Bronchitis and meds can run over $150 without insurance. Oops, your brakes need replacing, $450. Ouch, my tooth....dental visit, x-rays, filling....
Good luck to you.
Man that is a lot of things that never even crossed my mind. I just looked at the big picture, like affording rent and eating. There is so much more to it than that. And honestly, my home life isn't that bad at all. So many kids have it way worse than I do, I just want out so badly. But another year isn' too long. Plus, getting emancipated would ruin future plans. I need parental support to plan for college and things. Now I completely understand. Life goes on and its what I make of it. No more stupid choices!
Thanks for the maturity compliments though. And I will take into consideration the part about spending as little time at home as possible. I am in sports and things like that, but I could always join a few more. Can't fight with family if I'm not even home right?
Thanks again. I feel a lot better.
Sigh...can I please adopt you?
:)
That was funny. Hey if it gets me out of this place, then sure, adopt away! :p
LOL. A sense of humor will keep you sane during even the roughest times of your life ;)
My two Much Older Than You skids could learn a lot from you. Hang in there, Kristen. It's not going to be forever :)
Eh, they couldn't learn much from me, I have my imature, pouty, throw-a-big-fit-over-nothing moments just as often as any other kid, but thank you. In my head a year definitely seems like forever, but you're right :)
And, those good grades and extra-curricular activities can go a LONG way towards college scholarships, work-study opportunities, and paid internships. Give yourself as many opportunities as possible, so that more things and opportunities will be under YOUR control. How great would it be to choose where YOU want to go to college, what YOU want to major in, where YOU want to live and all those things that you don't have now, and that many young people find their parents will CONTINUE to try to control once they move out (along the lines of "we'll pay for your school IF...."). Even as a young adult, legally on your own, you'd be surprised how many STILL remain under the thumb of their parents due to remaining financially dependent, especially for school. So keep plugging away, keeping those grades up, keeping your nose clean, and keep your eye on the big picture - and you, unlike many others, will them be able to enjoy TRUE freedom to make your own decisions once 18 arrives.
I wish my daughter had been as level headed at 22, as you appear to be at 17. She's 27 now and everything is fine, but for a few years there I'd have asked Doggie to adopt HER.