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Bubba Jimmy
mcwild, you seem to need more help than a message board forum can provide you. There is a lot at stake over this, and you don't seem to trust the advice you are getting from the professional people here so you are certainly in the category of people who need very much to pay a tax professional for help. Find someone authorized to represent you before the IRS, pay them, and then trust the advice they give you. The consequences of getting it wrong can be very expensive for you, and you are not getting enough usable information from a forum like this that you are willing to trust. Good luck to you.