My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Kansas
I am wanting to leave my children's father because he is emotionally abusive to me. My children are 3 and 1. He and I were married at one point and then legally divorced. We had one child at that time. He harassed me and my family and friends constantly and was taking me to court constantly over everything. He then went to counseling and supposedly was a "changed man" I bought it and took him back. He was better for awhile and we had another son. We never remarried. Since the birth of our second child things have gotten worse and worse. He is in complete control of my life: what we eat, where we go. He won't allow me to have friends and rarely allows me to see my family. Living with him, I am constantly walking on eggshells. He gets mad at me and calls me names whenever I do the smallest things. He harasses me on my phone at work when he is angry. He threatens me with kicking me out and taking the children if I don't abide by his demands. His demands are constant. He has complete control of the money and I get an allowance that I have to ask for. The list goes on of things that he does....but I am miserable and I am starting to see a change in my children's personalities because he has started treating them the same way. I want to leave so at least they will get to see a "normal" way with me. I am willing to have joint or shared custody with him because I do not want to keep my children away from their father but I WANT OUT!
I want to leave but I know that he will not be happy and am honesty afraid of what he might do or say. I don't think that we can come to an amicable decision as far as custody. I think that I will just need to leave. But I want to take the boys because I am afraid he will never let me see them again! He threatens me all the time that if I take them from him he will take me to court for kidnapping! I also want them to see him but I don't want to see him becasue I am afraid of the situation and how he will act. I would already be out the door if I knew my legal rights with my children and how to let them see both of us as much as possible without fights ensuing! I NEED HELP!!!!! Thanks in advance!