Girlfriend Has My Stuff, I Have Her Stuff - Can I Sell Her Stuff to Get Money

[Lycopene]

I wouldn't do anything, he would.


And you said last "KNOWN ADDRESS." I didn't KNOW her address. I went there not knowing it and I still don't.

[jk]

I wouldn't do anything, he would.


And you said last "KNOWN ADDRESS." I didn't KNOW her address. I went there not knowing it and I still don't.

well, that isn't what you said:

So I ask of you, is it legal for me to sell her stuff that I have

I have her desk chair and she has mine

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Our deal was, that in roughly a year or so, I'd rent a U-Haul and bring her big stuff

since dad is owed the rent, she has to make such a deal with dad. You have no legal standing to make a deal with her

but, since she was going to come back and the two of you were going to truck everything to MO, that means your dad can't touch it either. It is a bailment with you. You have the duty to deal with the property, not dad.

If you haven't figured it out, you cannot connect the rent and the property. The property was left with you, not your dad.

and to the address:

I already addressed your point in the last post. You know your address is not her residence. You know she has a new address. Maybe I ought to try your excuse if I ever have to go to the police station. They recently moved and I don't know their new address. I know they are not at their old address but I don't know their actual new address. Oh well, I guess reporting to the old closed down station will be good enough.

Anyway, to keep it short, I flew there to meet her and she broke up with me. I accidentally left my glasses at her place. While there I asked her what to do with her stuff, and she said forget about it.

so, your girlfriend drives halfway across the country to some unknown address in St. Louis where you were going to move to, where you have actually been and you want to claim you do not have the address.

You really don't think that anybody believes some guy lets his girlfriend drive halfway across the country without knowing where she is going to live do you? and I suppose she picked you up at the airport and drove you back to the airport so you wouldn't have to deal with her address and a cab or a bus.

do what you want and if she sues you, explain it to the judge. I know I'm not believing it. Maybe the judge will.

[Lycopene]

Not an unknown address, her mom's address. She lives with her mom. I don't know that address.

[jk]

try looking in the phone book

[LawResearcherMissy]

I accidentally left my glasses at her place.

This is QUITE different from "she took my glasses with her and won't give them back".

Come back when you can get your lies straight, and stop complaining about us taking you at your word.

No one here has the time for your nonsense. There are people here with REAL problems that need our help.

[cyjeff]

Okay... so this little story has gone from she moved into a dark void to she moved in with her mom.

Mom, apparently, is in the witness protection program and, therefore, can't be looked up in the phone book.

Translation? I want to sell her stuff and feel justified about it because I can lie my ass off and say what she has of mine is of equal value.

Glasses so crucial to my life that I didn't notice I left them behind.... not on the drive to the airport... not in the airport... not on the flight...

No matter the wrangling, you can't sell her stuff because you are pissed at her.

[PandorasBox]

You find Mom's address in the phone book. You sent a letter, certified, registered mail, return receipt requested:

Her Name
C/o Mom's Name
Mom's address
City, state, zip.

Re: My glasses & your furniture.


Dear Jane,

As you know I left my glasses during our visit on (x date). I would like to make arrangements for their return. I am willing to send you a postage paid, pre-addressed box.

I would also like to discuss with you arrangments for the retrieval of your items, including a date. Of if you do not want the items, I would like that put in writing so I may dispose of them.

Please contact me to discuss these issues. I would like to hear from you by (give her 2 weeks). My email address is: My phone number is..... (make sure to include them in your header also).

Sincerely,
-John

[paleolith]

Mom, apparently, is in the witness protection program and, therefore, can't be looked up in the phone book.

Someone who rents and has an unlisted phone can be very hard to locate based on free, public sources. (If mom owns the residence but has an unlisted phone, try to find the property appraiser or tax collector's web site in the county. Most property records are online.)

I would also point out, though, that a family emergency could have occurred. Sometimes there are good reasons for sudden disappearances.

Glasses so crucial to my life that I didn't notice I left them behind.... not on the drive to the airport... not in the airport... not on the flight...

Spoken like someone under 50. I could leave my computer glasses behind, drive 500 miles, fly on an airplane, walk around in the airport, take a 50-mile backpack ... and not notice them missing until I got home. And yet I'd have nasty problems using my computer when I got home, and my livelihood depends on it. (I'm 61 and use four pairs of glasses on a regular basis.)

And as for knowing the address, I know lots of people who could be picked up at an airport, driven to a residence, spend a couple of days there, be driven back to the airport, and have no clue as to where they were. My wife is one of those people, and she is certainly not stupid -- just location-challenged.

What happens if the OP sends a letter to the ex at the OP's address, labeled "do not forward, address service requested"? Will that assure that the USPS returns it with the new address?

I have some doubts about whether the ex-gf would remember exactly what possessions were left, but pursuing that line any further would get into ill-advised recommendations for illegal behavior.

Edward