My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of: Kansas
I hope this is posted in the right place, I was a little unsure...
In October we received a letter from our son's school. He is 7 and in 2nd grade, the letter was concerning sevaral tardys. Please understand that I know this was my fault, I never really kept a tally of days where he was late but nonetheless we changed a few things in our morning routine to get him there earlier. Just this Friday 01/22/10 we got another letter from the school which informed us that to date he had accumulated 21 tardys and 2 absent days this school year. It also went on to mention that should the conditions continue that his name and situation would be given to a caseworker the Kansas Children Service League. Then after a home visit, if things still don't change the school must submit his name to the SRS and th Dickinson County Attorney's Office. The last sentence of the letter states " A copy of this letter and attendance sheet was sent to the County Attorney."
I immediatley called the principal and we spoke. I told him about us changing our routine to get him there earlier and that up until this point I had no ideal that it was at this point. I told him that I can't believe he has been this late so many times and only on rare occasions is he more then 1-2 minutes late. He told me school starts at 8:10am, if he walks in at 8:10 and 5seconds, he is late.
I just said, "really?". We spoke a little more at which time I apologized for the circumstances. I ensured him we would do whatever it takes to correct the problem. He said Thank you, and the conversation was over.
01/23/10, the next day. There is a knock on the door,,,county sheriff delivered court papers over our sons unexcused tardys. In the court papers it states:
*is without adequate parntal care, control or subsistence and it is not due solely to the lack of financial means of the child"s parents or other custodian.
*is without the care or control necessary for the childs physical, mental or emotional health.
*is not attending school as required.
We have a court date set for early next month.
I have to be honest, I was ready to park my truck in the principal's living room. I was really irritated to say the least, and to make matters worse my wife is a Court Services Officer and the attorney appointed on my son's behalf is someone she works with. I feel horrible as this is really not her fault, as she leaves before we do. It's my responsibility to get both the boys up and on school on time which I thought we were doing okay.
We have another son and he is 5, prior to all of this he was being dropped off first as we live closer to his school. After the first letter I began dropping the the 7yr old off first to get him there earlier, so obviously if the older one is late they younger one is late even more. However we have never received a letter from his school.
I think on Monday I will be calling around for an attorney. We are both good people and great parents so Im really not expecting anything more then the court checking in on us/kids to make sure things are better. I don't think we have anything to fight as there is nothing to hide the kids were simply late a few minutes a few too many times.
Still very irritating though, I could think of better things to do with the time and money spent on this crap. I think an attorney would be a good investment, maybe it would show that we are taking this serious. It may also keep me from speaking my mind, which I don't think would benefit us.